Extreme Lust!! What to do?

For the love of God, will somebody please think of the children!?!?!

Seriously though, my parents are still together.....and that was never good for any of the kids. My Dad stayed with my mom for the sake of the kids, and that always made me feel guilty more than anything, because it robbed him of happiness. "Broken homes" are often not as "broken" as those that are together.

That being said, you should let him make the decision to leave her before you start seducing him. Help him find happiness, but don't encourage him to cheat.

 

Wrong analogy.

The correct analogy would be 7-11 going under because the Vice-president has freely chosen to give you all his money and the CEO fires him for that reason. And, that the vice-president was essential to the company`s success.

Not to mention that a 7-11 might be a much sounder, and functional institution than this guy`s marriage.

 

Like the OP said.....the dude isn't married. Sounds like he knocked up some broad and is staying with her unhappily.

I agree with both of you. It's not the chicks responsibility to worry about the "family unit" but it would be a bitch move to seduce the guy while he's in a commited relationship. I say encourage him to leave the unhappy relationship, and then fuck his brains out.

 

As if a ring on his finger makes any difference whatsoever other than, well...a ring on his finger.

 

Tell that to a divorce lawyer!

 

Now thats the best thing i've heard in this thread so far... Thank you for your reasonable and wise words. I completely agree that it would be best to wait for him to choose, instead of pushing my feelings in his face...

 

Ok so the guy works at the club with her.....

So because he is not "married" just living with the mother of his child like so many couples do these days makes it ok?

She doesn't have the responsibility, but she should have a moral compass to know better. She knows he has a family unit and what could happen.

Now if he hadn't disclosed the fact he is in a relationship and was acting single then thats on him.

She knows she should take the higher ground and stop it.

 

Show us a picture so we can put a face with the verbiage.

 

no pictures... but he is REALLY good looking, half Puerto Rican

 

Sounds more to me like that`s what you know. I personally have absolutely no qualms about marriages ending, and if I caused it, all the better. It`s just mo puntang fo` meee.

I have had a fuck buddy relationship with a married woman for almost two years, and would do it again.

I`m the kind of guy who "likes" posts on Facebook when people switch their status to "single." The way I see it, if you can "like" an update when someone is "in a relationship", I can like one when someone switches to "single." Right?

Fuck monogamy! And a bunch of other people too! :2thumbsup:

Edit: Just kidding. Monogamy is great, just not around me. Or, not for long. :biggrin:

 

I have done a lot of research on the topic. I too have stayed in an unhappy situation for my children! All because the research shows that the kids are far more well adjusted if mum and dad stay together. Even if not that happy. Kids need routine and stability and BOTH PARENTS. My kids win behaviour awards at school. If they were screwed they would act out at school and get into trouble. I have had their art analysed. They are happy functional children. From a relationship where Mum and Dad tolerate each other. Divorce and separation ruin children. Do the research. The couple should get counselling. Perhaps they can get on, If not each can live their own lives under the same roof. I have a bf now and ex is on the scene. Kids are fine. This is a case study for you. Stay together as house mates and share care the kids. Far far easier than one going it alone. Put kids first. Their brain is set at 7 yrs. Leave then and your kids won't suffer. Far harder to be the single parent and watch the childs mind become increasingly fucked up. I personally would not want the karma. In the realm of parenting you really sow what you reap.

Conversely, my friend has just had her husband leave her. They had a poor relationship when the child was born. No sex, poor communication and financial stress. In spite of this, both parties were actively involved with the child even tho the vibe in the place was not great. As of a month ago the man left. The child aged 2 has gone down hill dramaticallty. He runs around the house calling "daddy, daddy, daddy" then holds his little hands up in the where is he pose. Now he is showing signs of anger towards "daddy" My friend sought counselling. Husband would not go. Counsellor said what will happen is the child will want daddy and enjoy seeing him for a while, but if Mum is primary carer and only parent in house, after a while the little boy will not want to go to see daddy...and more than likely, given time will prefer to stay with Mum. Th influence of Dad will wane considerably and eventually, there is a high possibility that he won't want to know Daddy given time. In the future too the child will place itself as the blame of the divorce. Kids always blame themselves for trouble at home. Dad will reap what he has sown. He left his child, and his child will leave him emotionally. This is the reality. Two case studies for you. Please pass this on to the guy, he sounds like a really decent person to have made the sacrifices he has so far. It is your duty to him if you like him to pass this on. You can be with him, he can be with his kids and the mother can have free time too. Work as a unit and everyone benefits. Good luck friend.