I`m still a virgin..

I`ve experience, not just with myself, but with guys & girls. I`ve only been fingered by 2 guys, though so I think if I do end up making love to the guy that I love then we will have to work up to it. I think I`ve the perfect solution.

 

Listen. It's easy to get hurt (emotionally) if you just screw every guy like some are suggesting. Because when you have sex you develop a bond with the other person and then if they treat you like crap (which they have every right to do if there is nothing special between the two of you) then you might feel really bad about yourself. Wait for someone who you really care about and make sure you know he cares about you too. Sex without caring is nothing more than mutual masturbation, which is just not that big a deal.

 

i didn't see a single person suggest that...

 

I really don't understand why some people get so fired up insisting that it doesn't mean anything. You do realize that NOT ONLY virgins think that it means something?

It means something if it means something TO YOU. Don't let other people tell you sex doesn't or does mean anything. They know what they feel about it, go with your own opinion. If you want to wait until you're in love then do, because then it'll be special to you. If you don't want to wait because it doesn't matter to you then go have sex. Simple as that. Obviously the OP feels sex should be special, so go with that.

 

we must sacrifice you to keep the sun burning.. what a shame to waste a good virgin, too..

 

I'm 19, still a virgin, and I definitely believe in waiting for the one true person to have a romantic, intimate, and emotional connection with. Nothing wrong with you or any other virgin. And I know friends who are virgins, too.

 

I was at a party the other night ago & all the people I was with told me that it really isn`t all that it`s made out to be... I agreed with them, but in my head I know for a FACT that it only means nothing to them because they never had sex with someone they loved/really felt strong feelings for. Also, they`re romantically immature & me being a complete & utterly hopeless romantic, believe that waiting will make it all the more special. I`m ready to have sex, I just have found the right one to share that special moment with. Maybe I want my first time to be with a fellow virgin; someone that is my soul mate & the love of my life.

 

... and about 100 people are inside of it every week

 

Go for it :2thumbsup:

 

good idea

 

the reason you haven't found a 'soul mate' isn't because you're 'not love lucky', it's that you're 17. you have lots of time, don't worry so much about it. if you want to have sex, then have sex. if you want to wait, then wait. you're young, don't sweat it.

 

I actually dislike sex with people I dont love. its mechanical and emotionless. and I do it all the time.

 

Im a year younger than you and i haven't lost it yet. I have been offered to do it a few times but i said no. Just dont worry, forget it and when the time is right you will feel it, just like a first kiss. You dont plan what time or day, like a deadline. You should actually be proud-i am. Its rare to see a virgin girl in my school, the only ones are like 4 so far. And you know what? The non-virgins have less respect, and i never really listened until i actually passed by so many groups of boys in my freshman year talking in detail about how each girl is, even girls i know! They described (or showed on a phone) how they were naked and thats when you see how much respect they get that the boys are calling them "easy" and showing them naked to all their buddies, or at least telling stories. Then their next bf finds out and its not as genuine or pure and he looks at her differently.

 

you shouldn't be proud because you're a virgin, nor should you be proud because you've had sex. saying you're proud to be a virgin implies that someone who has had sex has done something wrong.

 

There is nothing special about losing your virginity, especially if its with someone you're just going to forget about in a few years.

 

Sorry i didnt mean it like that, correction: be proud of whatever you have or choice you made. Dont be embarrased

 

I agree with this. I personally wouldn't really say I'm proud to be a virgin. I'm a bit indifferent towards the fact to be honest. I'm not proud to be a virgin, but by the same token, it's not something I'm ashamed of either.

 

much better :sunny:

 

actually, lots of virgins and non-virgins have things wrong with them.

the longer you wait the less likely that is to happen.

 

I think what he meant was that there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. We live in a society now where most young people feel they need to lose their virginity as soon as possible, as being a virgin carries a stigma, especially if you're older. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but lots of people feel if they are one, that there must be something wrong with them.

When you hear kids of 15/16 and even younger, thinking there's something wrong with them if they haven't experienced sex (or a relationship), you realise that the pendulum has swung completely the other way. We've gone from a time when virginity was seen as something special, to these days, where many people are made to feel a sense of shame if they are still a virgin.