Picking up girls sucks...

I have no idea. And the way he dressed, I mean he wore goggles on top of his head for fucks sake. How can he pick up girls!!!??

heres the man himself

 

Fanktastic reminded me....I forgot to mention getting a dog. I've met several girls at dog parks and just taking my dog out for walks. As well as a lot of cool people that introduced me to different circles of friends. It's a very effective ice breaker. I have a Bullmastiff and she gets a LOT of attention.

 

Getting a dog can be great but you have to get one with the right intentions. Using it as an icebreaker can be one of them for sure, but it shouldn't be the primarily reason I think. Especially not to use it to pick up one night stands (I've heard a baby works much better)

 

^ good point. If you don't like dogs this would not apply.

I for one am a dog lover and have never not had a dog. Getting laid is just a bonus

 

Since I live in the city I don't have a dog around me all day. Don't have enough space. I still consider our latest family dog mine as well though (1 year old german shepherd). He's technically my brother's but when I'm around I take it out pretty much every time. I would miss not having a bond with a dog at all, besided that he's hilarious. I pretty much like everything he does

 

There are plenty of breeds that do well in the city. My mastiff for example requires minimal exercise. It's kinda strange though that large dogs tend to fair better in the city, but make it harder to find an apt. Lol most landlords would rather you have a 20lb yappy hyper ass dog than a 100lb dog that sleeps all day and never barks. Doesn't make sense

 

another picture of mystery.....just because he cracks me up. He's just delightful.

 

Thanks for the input guys. As far as the pick up community goes, I stopped believing in it because, like LetLovin said, it comes across as totally unnatural and awkward at times and when you don´t pull a hook up or a number, you feel as though the night was a failure instead of having fun and enjoying the company of friends.

I realized that although you can use the techniques to pull a hook up, at the end of the day you are not being yourself and you´re tricking the girl into feeling something for you while she is really either tipsy or easy in the first place. I would rather her being interested in me for who I am even if my actual persona isn´t as interesting as some act I can put on. With that said, I would have considered myself to be a shy person before I got into "sarging"(term for hitting on girls used in the community) and the way the theory gets broken down logically in the books COMPELLED me to go out there and try my luck whereas before I would stay home and not party at all. So even if the techniques taught are kind of silly, they do force guys to take action and improve themselves. To me though, it got to the point where I was trying too hard as some of you pointed out. Some of my buddies even mentioned that I looked unseasy whenever I went to bars or clubs because I would be constantly looking around for girls and worrying that I needed to hit on someone to the point where it became sort of a task i need to do before time ran out. Like I said, just last week I asked 3 girls to dance even though I obviously have zero skills and get little enjoyment form it.

From junior year to graduation in college I hooked up or had some sort of short term relationship with exactly 6 girls every semester. Even though the techniques in the game and mystery method are silly, the theory behind it helped me tremendously in getting out of my dorm room and not caring whether i got turned down, for example. So in that sense there is value in their message, but I agree that now it just looks like an over the top money making scheme.

You guys pointed out that "not picking up girls suck" but the whole gotta hit up the club, or go to a college party and stuff started to feel fake to me even when I was hooking up with this one girl I introduced myself to randomly at a party and going on dates with two others I had met and gotten numbers from at college parties. Even if I was being more successful in it, it always felt like it was forced because i don´t enjoy those sort of environments, I was going there solely to try to hit on girls and get numbers. hence why I needed to drink to get in the right mindset and get some confidence to start approaching. As far as the dancing, I appreciate the positie words, but where are you from lol? I know with a little relaxation and some sense of rythm anyone can grid on some girl´s ass, but Im talking about salsa and other actual couple´s dancing. If you don´t know the basic steps and can´t lead, the girls know immediatelly and u just like a robot.


I have also come to the conclusion that just living my life and going on more social meeting/clubs/etc and completely excluding the nightlife thing are better alternatives, and for me a much better fit as I feel more comfortable and at easy at these types of getherings. In fact every girlfriend I had, I met either in a classroom or through friends and only had useless hook ups coming out of getting numbers or running "game" at the bar or club. This philosophy also goes well together with my goal to cut alcohol and working on having fun without it. It just sucks that when you are constantly moving or have a social circle where there isn´t many female members, you end up having to rely on the whole party scene. At least finding other activities gives me an opportunity to try something new.

Thanks guys for sharing some advice and some of your own personal takes on getting girls--we r all brothers in this so I appreciate the wisdom. Peace!

 

I should say also that Im not desperate to meet or tap girls--i´m coming off a relationship that ended last august and actually enjoy being totally free right now. I was just fed up with the way I was going about meeting chicks because one way or another we r freaking animals and NEED to take care of this major biological need for some female affection and, well--sex.

 

I say forget the pick up shit for now. Get back in the gym and focus and on self improvement and your development as a person. The girls will come when you least expect it

 

Probably best to avoid listening to The Smiths' How Soon Is Now.

Although strangely it brought me comfort in my 'I'm never gonna find anyone who loves me and I will die miserable, old and alone' moments.