Commitment..is it too much? free love

Sometimes commitment to someone seems like too much, some people aren't wired to be committed to a relationship. There's a need to be on our own and having someone to commit to and be attentive to can be too much. Then free love comes in place where commitment may be absent.

 

Ok...it's definitely true for some. Personally, I love commitment, and wouldn't have it any other way. It gets to complicated without it, imo.

 

if free love is your word for masturbation.

 

I think this is what my girlfriend wants to say to me

 

No it is not, free love to me means love to others without free emotional attachment (commitment)

 

But im not saying commitment is a negative thing, I enjoy commitment but sometimes i am not up for it, and some are not wired to be committed..

 

I'm a bit confused about terms. "Love" vs. "commitment" vs. "exclusivity"

In my mind, "commitment" means a promise (to both yourself and your partner but mostly to yourself) that you will be there to help and support them. Love without commitment is what one feels towards ice-cream. If one doesn't feel a commitment towards someone, I don't see how that can be (accuratly) called love. (Infatuation and horniness, sure.)

There is nothing about commitment that requires it be exclusive.

 

When commitment doesn't feel like commitment is when you've found the one.
There's no one like "the one" in the universe, so don't let them go.
I'm serious.

 

I love the commitment. I love him and he knows it. He loves me and I know it. We both like to come home to that.

I feel like I am free to love others as much as I can

 

So basically you are looking for the security and companionship found in a committed relationship, but would occasionally like a strange piece of ass, and not have to explain your actions to a partner? Or am I misunderstanding something?

I agree that some people are not wired to be committed, but I don't think it implies free love, so much as wanting some strange. Are you not wired to be committed, or feeling bored in your current situation and hoping for a more profound reason than boredom?

 

haha no basically what im saying is that with free love you can be free of commitment and free of emotions. and boredom is a state of mind. im not gonna out and have free love just cause im bored. all im saying is that commitment may be too much for some and turn to free love but i never said commitment is a bad thing. i feel like im just going around in circles with this. all i want is people's opinion about free love and commitment as two separate things.

 

^ I have free love when I'm bored

People give it away free

Nothing wrong with that

It's better than meth or video games or... dare I say... tooling around on the internet

Free Love

It's Free

Get Some

 

All that you`re saying sounds obvious and self-evident to me. But, having experience posting in the Free Love section of this forum, I've found that people here are completely goo-goo-gah-gay about monogamy, and the institution of marriage. Perhaps, even more so than the main of society.

They don`t make hippies like they used to.

Yes, free love is cool. But, you`ll find more criticism than support for it even in the Free Love forum (in spite of the title), I suspect. Free lovers are far and between.

At least you got confirmation from me. Rejoice! :biggrin:

 

exactly :iagree:

 

im glad to hear that! thank you and funny you say rejoice because my name is Joyce

 

Nice to meet you, Joyce. I hope we keep in touch and talk. Not enough Free Lovers where I`m sitting.

 

haha thats for sure, where may that sitting be?

 

I am too oriented to monogamy to actually "cheat" on my spouse or consider legitimizing it by calling it "free love". Why? Fear of insecurity, plain and simple. I only fantasize about fucking around. Constantly.

 

I am committed to love. (period)

For me, that means not lying and not being lied to. I am polyamorous and in an open marriage.

 

I do too

I thought of actually cheating makes me sick. It's just unkind and dishonest to the man that has consistently loved me and accepted me in a way no one else has or could.

I could never be so cruel to someone I am so close to, especially not for fleeting physical pleasure and a chemical brain rush.