Just wondered something. I have this friend who I have known for over a year now. She is straight but Im sure that she is coming onto me. The first thing that made me think this was that we were laughing together and I said OMG Im sweating and she asked "Do I make you hot?" She is always stearing at me...like really stearing..deep into my eye's. Then I got a text off her saying lets go away somewhere, read, walks on the beach and wine. We met at work and she is driving me NUTS...but because she is my closest friend I really don't want to ask her outright because if Im getting wrong signals then I think I would lose her and I really don't want that to happen. If I could only find out...She sends me texts saying that she was thinking about me. Its like we are both flirting with each other the whole time. She even kisses me on the lips when we say goodbye. Advice would help. Thanks
Or the next time she kisses you, kiss back. If she wasn't coming on to you, you could always tell her to stop sending out the wrong signals. I'm pretty sure you should just kiss her though. It'd be far more magical for her- and you'd get to feel very romantic for initiating it.
You say she's straight. Is she in a relationship now? Are you? If both of you are free agents ... kiss her back ... definitely.
It's extremely common for "straight" girls to fantasize [I'm thinking about girls at least half of the time] about other girls and also be really turned on by being around a hot gay girl that they think is into them It sounds to me like this girl is *begging you* to make a move on her I'd hate to give you the wrong advice, but it sounds pretty clear to me I would recommend planning that getaway together and read her body language, and if it seems to be saying "kiss me" it probably is
Does she know you are gay (r u?) or she thinks that you are straight? If I where in your place I would first try to escalate the "flirting game" before I kiss her. The way you describe the situation it seems to me that she is flirting with you and you just accept but you don't do anything in return. So, for example the next time she touches you touch her back -this will show to her that not only you are ok with what she is doing but that you actually want it! That way you will gain more intimacy and the next step will for both of you easier (if it is destined to happen). And of course, you should go with her the excursion she suggests. Reading, walking on the beach, drinkning wine, sounds nice and even if nothing happens you will have a nice time with your best friend. But I think something will happen... Being away from your usual environment makes you feel free and relaxed... and of course you can always blame it on the wine afterwards
I have no idea what she thinks about me...But Im fairly certain she has some idea even though we are both married. Im in my 30's and she is in her 50"s. I saw her over the weekend...the same signs, staring deeply at me. She suggested that we go away to a hotel together for our birthday which is around the same time. I think that I def. show her that Im interested. I call her sexy, Ive told her that she has great breasts, I touch her ALL the time. She's not fazed by this at all and I have caught her looking at me too. Im at the point now where I just want to know. I can't even work without her on my mind consistantly. However something happened the other day...we were chatting about a friend of mine...I told her that after a few wines she kissed me on the lips before leaving to go home. She replied by saying that you should not kiss girls on the lips to which I replied "well you kiss me??" The next day she was different...not flirty at all and a bit off....Not sure what to think now.
Both married!? That is complicated!! I think you are looking for trouble! Anyway... Ask her to go out to a hotel as she suggests for your birthdays. If sleeping overnight is included then you will definately find out! However I must say that unless we come from significant different cultures or different social circles, I think that it is not common that a married woman in their 50s would kiss another woman on the lips as a gesture of friendship! Therefore I am of the opinion that she likes the whole situation. Why she doesn't speak to you after what you said is another issue. Why did you say it? (what were u thinking?)! I have no idea what she thinks. I can only imagine. So I can think for example that given the fact that you are so intimate perhaps accordig to her you are already in a kind of relationship that she could have expected exclusivity and by you kissing the another girl you made her jealous. Another explanation is that all this time she liked the illusion of "friendhsip". When you put a label on it, it made her uncofortable! So, to sum up, go with her to the excursion/hotel/whatever she wants. I think this will bring you to the next level that you wish for. However what happens after that is another issue, and you should be prepared for the consequencies... Wish you all the best!
