I'm a bad Mommy

As some of you know, I go to school full time and am looking for an internship. But as of now, I'm piss poor. I tried to get my kids what I could ......and I did a pretty good job for what I was working with

Problem is, my oldest and most introverted child, wants a Video Now, its the only thing she has asked for. I explained that we can't afford it and she (as usual) said she understood.

Intellectually, I know that it is a trinket that she really doesn't need and I know that that shouldn't be the main focus of Christmas and I know whatever the kids get for Christmas will probably be broken by Easter

BUT.......she did get straight A's. And something in my gut can't stand for her only Christmas request to be denied. I feel horrible.......I feel like a really bad Mom.

Damn lack of money - ruining my Christmas

 

What video does she want? How much is the video?

 

The very fact of your concern and sadness over the situation tells me you are one hell of a good mom. Your kids should be proud.

 

i am really sorry. i know this doesnt help, but youre not a bad mom. at all. however, being a good mom doesnt keep your child from being disapointed once in awhile. i wish i could help i want your little girl to have what she deserves.

 

I think you are a good mom. I'm sorry your sad about this. If your daughter understood she must think your a good mom too. That in itself is a gift.

 

what's a video now, and how much does it cost?

 

Its a Video Now, its like a pocket video player

Its like 50 bucks but I only have like 80 bucks to finish getting gifts for all the kids. 50 is just too much right now

Its just that I have had money past Christmases. I'm not used to not being able to get them what they want - mainly because my kids ask for so little

I think I may have a way to get more money but it would involve me reviving my dominatrix gig - hey! I gotta do what I gotta do

 

when were u a domme?

 

Beat them with bricks. That'll show 'em to ask for stuff.

 

my head buddy is into that *shrug* plus he is in lust with me

I cuss him out, give him a few smacks to the head, he gives me a little mouth action, and BAM! he'll give whatever he's got


Tacky? - yes

But sometimes you gotta get creative

 

You can get a "juice box" which I think is similar to a video now on ebay pretty cheap.
I saw some on there that started at $1.00. It costs about $8 to ship them though.

 

Ohhhhh, thanks ! I'll check it out

 

Please do not believe that you are a bad mommy. You are a wonderful mommy. Maybe things might be rough now but that is why you are going to school and interning so you can give your kids a better life. Well, that is why I went and still in school...............



~namaste~

 

If that doesnt work I think we need to start a fundraiser for ya. As has already been said, your a hell of a mother and an awesome person...

 

MissFontella, my mom went through the same thing for years....Going to school, piss poor...And all of us kids understood. We went 5 Christmases in a row without a single gift. What mom did, though, was to buy us little things here and there and say that she was spreading Christmas throughout the year. We had little traditions for the day, like watching certain movies, and singing certain songs. Also, mom helped foster the spirit of charity in us. We would clean out our toy boxes of the toys we don't play with anymore and would give them to charity or other poorer children that we knew. One year mom only had $15 to spend on us three children. She took us to the dollar store and told us that we each had 5 dollars to spend how we wished. We each took our fiver, went to the tree of Christmas wishes, and bought a cheap present for one of the kids on the tree. Mom cried in joy because she felt she had done something right for us children to do that.

Do something like that with your kids. They will remember that more than they will remember the gifts you buy. And they will thank you later in life.

Holly
Previously, a poor kid.

 

i feel your pain, but your not a bad mommy just hard times. last year i wasnt able to buy my kids any gifts. i counted on others to give to them because i couldnt, last christmas i was being evicted from my apartment!


just hard times doll, they love you, they will like anything you give them im sure.

 

If you can't get it, she may be disappointed now, but she will appreciate you later. My dad raised me & my brother on as little as $11000 a year some years -- trust me, there were lots of xmas presents I missed out on. I did my share of bitching back then, but by the time I was a teenager I was able to look back & appreciate what he sacrificed for himself to just put a roof over our heads & food in our bellies. You're not making them go without for selfish reasons. You're working your ass off to get that degree, which will make things better for all of you in the long run.

Is there any chance you could call up relatives to contribute to it? Like one big gift from you & the grandparents & any aunts/uncles?

 

maybe if you try to be really subtle about it, don't ask directly, people here will feel sorry for you and send you money.

 

I think I may have worked it out

between my head buddy and my best friend's discount

thanks for all the replies though (with the except of tom).....I was feeling pretty bad when I started this thread. It made me feel like it wasn't as bad as it felt.

sometimes I really love you guys

 

I'm glad things are looking up. Have a Happy Christmas.