19 and still a virgin

Hey all. Longish time lurker, first time poster. Not so well versed with the jam band tropes but I love the music and can't wait to keep meeting people at this wonderful school. Lots of cool hippies, acid abound, ya know ya know.

Well, I've always been pretty socially awkward, which the docs chalk up to being bipolar, and recently I've been starting to actually believe it since I'm getting symptoms of schizophrenia (piss stream talking to me, cars rushing past yelling shit to me, the whole spiel). I've been medicated since I was 16 and finally found a good balance around my 18th birthday (today's my 19th by the way! :sunny Never had a girlfriend in high school... went to a few parties but was never really into the 'rage' scene. I love my friends who are very caring and understanding, though I don't have many. (this is not the problem)

Now I'm in college and I have yet to know the ropes. I'll think about a conversation with a cute girl hours later and realize she was dropping mad hints. Of course by then I'm deep in the friend zone. My brother goes to the bars and gets laid on the reg but he learned through PUA techniques on the internet and how to basically manipulate women with subconscious techniques and shit like that. Well fuck that.

The schizophrenic symptoms have been getting worse recently, making it very hard to talk to people, since the voices in my head are very distracting. I'm going to meditation club tonight in order to try and get rid of them the healthy way. My parents have me medicated with pills that do help to a certain extent, but I know that isn't what's going to actually permanently fix the problem.

Been off weed for about a week now since it makes the voices worse, but they're still there and I have a bad habit of believing they're real, which puts me isolated in my dorm afraid to do anything but go to class. I've been getting better about that, but so far I only have two decent friends: my roommate and a very pessimistic (but hilarious) kid who lives 2 seconds away. Needless to say, I need to get back to being my happy normal self before worrying about sex, though we all have needs and I'm a day or two away from a very embarrassing wet dream.

I'd love to hear some input from you nice folks, especially those of you with similar mental backgrounds. My mom's side of the family is riddled with bipolar and schizophrenia; one of her sisters killed herself and her brother wound up in a mental ward for a full year after taking acid. But enough with the self-pity. Let's fix this!

Much love,
Lyle

 

happy birthday.

you should probably masturbate before that whole wet dream thing happens.

 

happy birthday, you should go out and celebrate! I don't really know what schizophrenia is like (sounds scary) but you should go out and meet more people, especially if you're in college there's tons of people your age, just go talk to someone in your class, it's easy to make a friend in 5 minutes and friends = things to do, enjoyment, parties. meeting a girl and sex will come naturally

 

Could it be a placebo effect? I keep on thinking i have some type of disorder because i see myself separate from everyone else. If i were you i would look into 5-HTP, niacin, and P5P. Perhaps those can help you, if nothing else works then you can meditate.

Cheers and happy birthday

 

Hit on girls you meet in the waiting room at the shrink's office. They won't be as likely to judge you or be afraid of you.

 

Don't worry about it! I'm eighteen and still haven't been kissed. Other than that, I'm a normal guy!


You're normal too, just slightly less so than others. Don't worry about it.

 

I have Schizoaffective Bipolar Disorder, I am 24, and still a virgin. The furthest I have gone is kissing a girl. It is definitely hard having such a heavy illness and getting a girlfriend. However, there is hope. From age 14 to 22, my illness ran my life and I could not find the meds or therapy to control it.

But at age 22, I found a medication and therapy regimen that allows me to live a somewhat normal life SYMPTOM FREE. So I think part of my virginity is simply that I was battling my illness for so long that I didn't have the right mind-set to seek out a girlfriend.

Lately, I have been talking to girls more and flirting more. I don't drink (because of the meds) but I still go to bars with friends and talk to girls. I have asked a few female friends out of jest if they would "think I was a virgin" and all of them said NO.

So I offer a realistic YET hopeful response to your query!

 

it's ok. my roommate is a 24 year old virgin. it will happen when it happens..... or buy a hooker.

 

My boyfriend didn't lose his virginity until he was 19. Not to me, but shes the only other person hes been with, which is kind of special in a way.

 

U need some dark suger

 

Waite ur 31 and no sex at all?

 

Welp, it finally happened....


...and it's not all it's cracked up to be.

 

People who wait too long make it into something in their heads that reality can never match.

 

They are also not very likely to be any good at it.

 

She actually said I was pretty good for my first time. And I really didn't have any huge expectations.

 

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Not all of us who are virgins in our 20s waited voluntarily. Some of us, like me, just legitimitelly never found a girl that reciprocated my interest in her. I would have had sex at age 16 if the opportunity presented itself! But now I am 24 am still a virgin. But I am not waiting for anyone whatsoever.

 

I know.

 

really, you make a post on hf about being an adult virgin and randomly get laid 6 days later? this seems unlikely to me.

 

I`m a 17 year old virgin & I don`t think I have mental problems so don`t feel bad. You will get your chance at it. I think you should just try to go with the flow & meet new people. Go to a rainbow gathering or something.. where there will be a lot more people like you there & maybe you won`t get just ONE woman, but 2 or 3. My little brother is schizoeffective & manic depressive so I can totally understand your situation. Best of luck to you! eace: