I'm friends with this guy (that I'm attracted to) and during winter break, he texted me several times that he missed me. When we got back to school though, he was acting kind of distant with me. He didn't seem excited to see me at all. Why is he acting like this?
because you asked him almost the same thing 1000 times without providing enough information for him to give an answer. he's doing the right thing; acting excited to see a girl is the classic ticket to the friend zone.
there could be many different reasons... 1) he's playing hard to get. 2) when he wrote the texts he was missing u but now that u're here he's realized he doesn't like u that much, (possibly because u showed interest in him and now it's no fun "hunting" u down anymore, he takes u for granted). 3) he says "i miss u" to a lot of friends and it doesn't mean as much to him as it does to u. 4) he has a new gf. 5) his excitement faded out when he saw u because u said something he didn't like. 6) u're a friend, he is just normally excited to see u again but he doesn't need to show it. ...i could come up with a lot more. But simply, i think a text is just a text, don't read too much into them
He feels rejected because in his mind saying "I missed you" is the same as telling you that he's in love with you and (again in his mind) you didn't respond the way he'd hoped you would, so he's pissed. He feels unrequited. If you're attracted to him, grab him and kiss him passionately the next time you see him. Then tell him you missed him too - I guarantee he'll know exactly what you're referring to. After you do this, post his reaction.
well i don't see the fun in that either, i was just saying it's a possibility. at least two of my male friends claim that they like the whole "trying to get a girl" process, and that once the girl they want gives in they lose interest. I realize it's not all guys, but some.
Well, he missed you. Now the winter break is over. He doesn't have to miss you anymore. Back to the old routine.
