Is living together before getting engaged...

My boyfriend (now husband) and I never formally lived together before getting engaged or married. That's not to say we didn't spend most every night together :love:, but it just seemed like a big hassle to take the time to move everything into one place. He had a small, one bedroom apartment, and I had a two bedroom condo. The extra bedroom was a home office. What I'm saying is neither of us had a lot of extra space to move the other's belongings into. I guess our separate places were being used more as storage units than anything.

When we got married, he moved in with me and we rented an actual storage unit until my condo sold. Fortunately that didn't take very long, and we were able to swing a deal to buy a nice place outside of town with some land. I think we're doing okay. We've been married about 5-1/2 years, have a daughter, and still enjoy spending time with each other.

That probably sounds like I'm against living together and that's not true. I think it's important to experience your partner (same sex or opposite, let's be fair!) 24/7 before making any commitment. Once he starts farting in bed and walking around in his underwear you know the honeymoon's over, LOL. Then you start to see what the real him/her is all about. Give that some time before making a decision what you want to do.

 

Very good points there. I agree. We actually talked about this more recently and he said it's not so much as important to live together as it is to at least spend more time together in general, since he's living far from me right now. We just want to experience each other's personalities if we were together most of the time and see if we're truly happy with that for the rest of our lives. As of right now, the only time we fight is when we're apart. When we have any misunderstandings when we're together, they get solved quickly and we make up and are perfectly fine.

 

I guess I didn't read everything. I didn't realize this was a long distance relationship. That must be tough.

 

Yes, it is. We tough it out though in the hopes it lasts.