So here's the lowdown... I don't know what to make of this situation. I've dated this guy for a few months, and things were going great and we both really liked each other, until he mentioned that way before he met me he's been planning to go on a euro trip for about half a year... so here's the kicker.... I was the last person he saw and spoke to before he left. Plus ever since he's left we still talk to each other pretty much every day (i'm surprised he even is able to make the time for me) and he really makes his presence felt, I know that he really cares about me, and I really like him, however I don't know if it's really worth it investing anymore feelings over him knowing that he won't be back for another while, and then maybe just maybe him going to asia for a year. I've always said that long distance never works, yet here I am still dating?? someone who's not even on the same continent as me... honestly I don't even know what to call it... because we never really made it official that we'd be exclusive... but at the same time he kinda implied it. He always asks me to be sweet to him but its kinda hard to be sweet to him if i dont know where we stand.... whether I can see other ppl or not. And if it's not exclusive i don't wanna waste my time dwelling about him (hope doesn't sound too harsh) But at the same time he always asks me in full seriousness to come and visit him and travel with him, and is always eager to see me again when he comes back if i don't go visit him. Bottom line, maybe i just don't know what he wants out of this because he's away, it's harder for me to read him and really have to rely on communication more than anything. It seems like he wants to be with me... but it's really throwing me off for somereason. perhaps because i'd rather see other ppl if he doesn't want anything serious .... anyways, what would you do if you were me.
i was married to a military man foryears, he deployed often and everytime i he came back it was like it was our honey moon. long distance is not a bad thing as long as there is a plan to be together at some point, months maybe a couple of years if you are truly deeply in love but ust a flat out long distance relatioship with no plans whatsoever of beng together is a waste of time. If i were you, i would really see if this relationship has a potential for a future and if its a realistic expectation, dont fill ur head up with crap and fantasies (as girls tend to do) unless there is a real plan.
Time you have to put in the time to see if he's worth your while, the problem comes when people invest too much time in a dead end relationship.
Hope it all works out for you, it does take patience................ unfortunately that wasn't in my LDR and it ended bad....... but everyone and every situation is difference and i don't regret it becuase everything is worth trying!
