Passive agressive,emotionally abusive,flaky?So confused and hurt

Is someone being passive aggressive or emotionally abusive if they are constantly bouncing in and out of your life? He/she gets mad because they feel you have "wronged" them ...Always being blamed for one thing or the other and then you move on with your life because the person has told you that they are done with you to just have them reappear weeks or months later. Over the span of a year and a half I've had this person continuosly come in and out of my life. Once again i was told that they were "done with this in 2011" and "better Luick Next year"...Ive tried to always be a good friend as I am with all my other friends but something just feels off not sure if its me or the other person..What to do?

To be clear...he was introduced through a mutual friend and their was a mutual initial interest but kept it friendly. In person he was always nice and pleasant ..funny never disrespectful. As i do with all friends i tried to include him in our group hangout and even one on one which was always fun..but I was always accused of trying to hard to be a good friend which I never understood. He would then disappear for awhile and then pop up with "where have u been ?oh you're too good to talk to anyone anymore?" after clearly being annoyed with me

 

i believe the term used here is ''doormat'' ...you have a choice to be a doormat or not..

 

just tell him to fuck off.

 

in mexico we say "the cowardly lives as long as the Brave one allows it" move on.

 

Can you elaborate a little more?

 

He's doing all this to you becuase you allow it, the day you dont pay him no mind and act like you truly don't give a shit is the day he will stop such disrepect. You need to be clear, if hes gonna disapear out of your life, tell him make sure he does it for good and that if yall are gonna be friends then act like it, no blaming or pointing fingers he aint ur husband. True friends forgive and move on, why do you need to have someone so negative round? no need for that.