Have you been someone's REBOUND before?

I think I have.

This woman kept me as her "wet blanket" throughout a bad, very long relationship with another man. Toward the end, we started to have feelings for each other, and eventually she left the man. However, she continued to see him and talk to him a lot.

After one week of her being "single," we discussed our feelings, and she said she wanted to sleep with me. I told her she needed time to get over her ex, as I was not going to be a rebound fling.

However, we still ended up spending time together. We got in bed, but did not have sex. I gave her pleasure in other ways, and after only a few days (and not even a single date), she said she was falling for me. She added, however, that she could not "commit" to me because I'm moving away soon. However, she still really wanted to have sex. Problem for me: she was still skyping her ex frequently and posting affectionate things about him on her blog.

A few days ago he sent her dozens of roses and a love letter. Her mom also called to tell her to give him another chance. The woman called me to tell me that she is "conflicted," and wants to figure out her feelings. She said that she'd rather be with me, but her friends and family all want her to be with him instead. He's trying really hard, and she wants to give him another chance.

Anyone else been in a situation like this?

 

OH yes. LOL. It's called plan b. Some people are terrified of being single, so they always make sure they have a back up plan. It's kind of pathetic really, but true nonetheless. My advice, get some self respect. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I've been that guy, and it sucks to be that guy. Tell her you're not going to tolerate being plan b and walk - and by walk, I mean cut her completely out of your life. Don't see her, don't call her, don't answer your phone when she calls for at least a week. If she's really gives a shit about you at all, she'll have an "epiphany", her 'indecision" will suddenly become resolved and I guarantee that if she's in to you at all, she'll come after you, and she might have found some newfound respect for you. Make no mistake, what she's doing is being disrespectful towards you. Be warned if/when she does call; she might just be trying to restore the old situation. Make it very clear that you're aware of what she's doing, even if she isn't, or pretends she isn't and that you won't tolerate being plan b, ever. Or, if you're just using each other for sex, and that's fine with you, by all means enjoy yourself. You're moving away anyway, I'd go with the "enjoy myself" plan.

 

Yes and she enjoyed every moment of it

 

It only works if both people are on the rebound

 

Why would you want to settle or half of someones heart? the way this relationship seems was going was to insecurity and trust issues. Seems like this woman is not ready to date or be taken seriously. She needs to be alone for a while, stop all the online shit with her ex and when she's an available, emotionally stable woman and all the "troubleness" goes away tell her to look you up. Why do you men let us women manipulate you so much? As a chick i can tell you she is not playing fair.