Waiting for shit to hit the fan (longish family rant)

Yesterday my brother (homeless) came to spend the night at our dads house (where I live) and asked my dad for a ride with him to his work the next day so he could walk to the blood center to sell his plasma.
Dad said 'no' because it isn't his job anymore to help people, and he now gets to be a deadbeat like our mother who is an alcoholic lunatic that no one expects anything from.

My brother decided to steal the alcohol my dad keeps and left a note saying "If you are entitled to act like mom, then so am I. If we are going to emulate her, we can expect our family to abandon us the same way (etc)" in it's place.
Then he left.

Now, last night I expected my dad to get home from work, get ready to leave, grab a shot or two in preparation to go out for the night, (daily routine) where instead he would have found the note from my brother and presumably get all sorts of angry.
But he did not come home last night, and just now showed up around noon with his (insane) on/off girlfriend.

Now, when she is here it is an unspoken rule that I stay in my room. Otherwise she feels like I am trying to steal my dad away from her or some shit like that. (I haven't seen his face in days, all his free time goes to her... I think she'd win anyway)

Now they are chillaxin' in the communal spaces and I am hiding in my room.

I know that eventually they will attempt to grab an afternoon martini or some shit and find the note and then things will probably get bad (dad puts himself on a pedestal and has never done anything wrong in his eyes, and doesn't particularly like being told otherwise) and will probably come to yell at me about it, and in combination with a plethora of repressed feelings towards him and the way I am treated (or ignored) will come out and the day will be sucky.


So that's my day today. Sitting any worrying about having to maybe talk to my dad.


FML


Basically just confirm that my dad is an asshole.


(Now- in defense of my brother, the 'blood money' as they call it was to buy dog food and a new battery for his bike. Transportation=job potential. That's a good thing to help with isn't it?)

 

I'm sorry you're still going through this shit, Sarah. How long before you can be out on your own? It'll be tough, but at least it will be yours. Can you get a job now to start saving up and keep yourself away from the bullshit?

 

Wow that kinda sucks.....can't say I really blame your brother for doing that though. It sucks having to deal with family crap like that though.

 

It never ends I swear! You probably remember about all the mom BS as well.
I turn 18 in early March. I graduate in June.

It's pretty much,

no job-> no money ->no car,
but also
no car-> no job->no money.

I'm stuck in the loop! Dad expects me to move out about a week after I graduate though. ???

 

you need to learn how to spin a bad situation in your favor...you could very likely play your dad and his girlfriend like a fiddle...parents are easily deceived and by the sounds of things your dad is a fuckin moron and would be extra easy to con into doing whatever you want...same with the nutcase gf...mental patients are extra easy to manipulate

 

I got out of my cesspool of family disfunctionality at 18, and miraculously they stopped drinking and went out of their way to patch up a lot of the problems that came with it while I was gone.

 

:grouphug:

Good luck with that.

 

Is there no place you can go, for example to a friends and hang out when things like this happen and you know they are going to blow up?

Sorry to read that. Families are complicated and some are way past complicated and it does make it difficult to deal with.

 

you should crap in both their pillowcases..

 

I'm pretty antisocial, and even if there was somewhere to go I think I'd still rather be at home.

So far! He hasn't spent any time at home so nothing has happened unusual has happened. My brother is his favorite kid though, (and that says a lot for how much he likes the rest of us!) So he'll probably take it pretty rough when he finds the note.


Thanks for the sentiment all.

 

you should have taken the note and disposed of it...leaving them both confused

 

One of the most brilliant fucking statements to date!

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It's a shame I can't think of a thing I want from him