What if your s/o suggested sex with others?

very well said booga
and foxes den, long term multipartnered relationships are possible for sure
but..arent ecxactly easy..lol
and to rue takedo
a poly relationship shouldnt have a hinge
as the hinge, yad be the 1 discarded without much thought if the situation wasnt perfect
without equality, the hinge is just an extra..not quite a part of...

 

They still call it wife. ha ha ha

 

Wow-it's been a while since I've been at this forum. At this point our marriage is open and I have the freedom to play with other women, couples, groups, etc....and I have and I've been loving it. She has the same freedom but so far has not opted to play-I am hoping one day she decides to at least give it a go though and then we'll take it from there.

 

I used to be like this retarded fuckwad. Thank God I evolved.

I have no jealously issues whatsoever. My SO simply doesn't have the desire to 'play' and I doubt that she ever will.

So I play enough for the both of us!

 

My girlfriend and I talk openly about everything when it comes to sex! After we had been together for a while she confided in me that she is also attracted to girls! This is something I have no problem with at all and to me it just showed me how much she trusted me to tell me! She is 27 years old and never had the chance to experiance being with another woman! We are looking at spending our life together and neither one of us are interested in having sex without each other being there! So I talked to her about having a threesome with another girl and it is something we both want to do together and something we have been actively looking for (not so easy to find so far)!

I am a 40 year old hetro male and although I would love to have another woman join us for a long night of fun I also would love to have another hetro male and myself treat my sexy woman like the sex goddess I feel she is! The problem I have is that she has no interest at all in having two men at once even though she knows I would enjoy it! She says she knows she is being a hypocrit but would not enjoy having another naked man in the same room with me even if we were not touching each other! At this point we are just going to try and get the ffm going and we will see what the future brings!

 

if it was something done together absolutely cool, done with knowledge but not together maybe ok, done without knowledge....:sunny: youre fired

 

Oh, she did. I had been thinking of it for years but never had the gonads to suggest it. We jumped in and have never looked back. It has been a lot of fun!!

Same name on the Y

 

I am strictly monogamous and expect him to be the same. If he mentioned it, I would think he's thinking of cheating and then I would start to have trust issues. That path would lead to divorce. I wouldn't stay married to someone I couldn't trust. Swinging is just not for me.

We have children anyway. I wonder, how many swinging couples have kids? (Young kids that would need supervision).

 

Actually, quite a few. The majority of swingers aren't couples who have just started dating; they get into it when their relationships are very much settled with families and all, and are just looking for some discrete fun away from their daily routines, without the fear of their partner leaving them because they've already established their lives together. That's where jealousy should no longer be an issue, and having a hobby like that could even bring them closer together and ignite a fresh spark. When you lead a hectic life and also have to take care of kids, some couples want to take the most out of the rare occasions when they do get to be by themselves, and they do so by trying out exciting new things such as swinging. Of course it could also end badly, but the above would be a common reasoning for why couples get into swinging and open relationships.

 

I am not so sure about that. I have had tried Bi and really liked it. Without admitting it to GFs I have brought up Bi and found that most women are intrigued by a Bi experience with another woman but most are not happy at all about guy on guy sex.

 

I'm one of them. I'd love it if my husband was bi. I watch gay porn.

And sex with others is part of our marriage. I think it's a good thing.

 

seriously doubt she ever would, I know I am not suggesting it. With a man out of the question with another womon I would hesitate

 

Couldn't do it, can't share my family jewels with anyone. Yes I am secure and trusting in my relationships and to my knowledge have never been messed around on. Never been asked this question but it has come up in conversations with my partners now and the past ones, never did any want to share. I guess I am lucky in that I seem to meet men with their straight and one women policies that suit me just fine.
I know my current BF would not have it, he has said a few times even in joking, any guy touches my bits and there will be some trouble. That's not insecure IMO, that's no different then one (like me) who'd never let anyone else drive their personal cars either, what's mine is mine, get a cab. now my business vehicle,,, ya I have let workers with a good drivers record drive it, toucha ma man,,, you die,,, or he has to, someone's gotta die. Hee hee.

After giving this some thought today and other days we had similar threads, I want to open my mind and say if I was single and just hanging with a guy for sex, maybe,,, Nope! Still can't go there and I really think that's because I can't do the Just for sex thing either because for some reason I fear that would miss out on what's really important in what I could call sex. That would make it just sex and at that point I think I would feel it was almost nothing and I might opt to do without as I have done before in-between relationships.

 

Eeeek! Retarded fuck wad?
I love this guy, except that he expects to be treated like a king, how bout like her man and her like his woman? I don't go all out to treat anyone like a king or even myself like a queen or expect it. I just make my man a special part of my life and we roll as a team. But he is right, we,,, him and her are to be kept as a secret and protected, of course if one doesn't want that then off to some other kind of relationship, IMO. But, that's my opinion. It's my way of picking my man. Looking for the one who attracts to me and knows what he wants, me.

 

We have! Between 2002 & 2006 we swung with (mainly) another couple. We started with "same room sex" but very soon, like 3 weeks!, discovered that we wanted to give complete swapping/foursome/threesomes a shot. It worked for us two & I know the other couple were equally enthusiastic.
In time we experimented a bit more, we tried a couple of swinger parties & a couple of swinger clubs (one in the UK which was a let down & one in France that was much better organised), but to be honest, the closeness & physical intimacy we shared with the other couple is what really did it for us. From a personal point of view, my favourite action was MFM threesomes, very satisfying & very erotic.

 

She suggests it all the time.