Okay so I have known that I like girls for a long time and have just recently been able to fully and completely accept it but I'm still a little confused. I do not know if I am Bisexual or full Lesbian. I have never had a girlfriend but I have had a sexual experience with a girl before. I have had a few boyfriends but what is making me think about this is that I do prefer girls and naked guys do nothing for me at all while I thoroughly enjoy looking at girls. I also do not know if it is the hopeless romantic in me that likes the idea of a pair of big strong arms wrapping around me or i genuinely like being held in a guys arms. I know I do not need to be labeling myself but I would still like to know how I would identify myself. So any kind of help or opinions would be appreciated thank you.
You are what you are. Don't go putting the cart before the horse, and whatever you do don't define yourself by the stereotype that comes with whatever label you decide fits you best. If you like girls, you like girls. If you like guys, you like guys. If you like both, you like both. And if you only like small green furry creatures from Alpha Centuri ... you're gonna be awfully lonely.
yeah i understand that i am just a little confused because i dk if i like guys or not thats what im so confused about thank you tho
I'd say just consider yourself bisexual and stop worrying about it. Maybe tomorrow u will want to be with one person u meet, and u won't have to wonder about your sexual orientation anymore, u'll just be sexually attracted to that person and it will be all that matters.
I hate labels , they tie you up into a little box. I would just go with whatever you are feeling at the time , because who says you have to define your feelings to anyone ? I havent botherd trying to explaine myself , I just smile and tell whoever asks that im into girls.
If you like girls and boys , then I would say you were bi . I am a streght guy , I dont spend any time setting around worring about it . Find some one you are happy with .. desert rat
@erzbet I know I shouldn't label myself or have have to explain my feelings to anyone I mostly wanted to get other peoples opinions on this @desert rat Thats just it I don't know if i like guys or if I just like the idea of being with a guy thats whats confusing me. and just so you know you scared me for a bit I though you called me desert rat and I was like how does he know I live in the desert then I noticed it was your username lol
Hey - I think that the question whether you "like guys" or not is actually a bit of a red herring. At the end of the day, it's not about having a relationship with the abstract notion of "a guy". It's about the particular relationship which you enjoy with a particular individual. So if I were you, I'd keep an open mind, and wait to see what happens when somebody comes along and you fall in love with them. Don't try to decide in advance whether or not it can be a guy or has to be a girl. If you don't KNOW (like I always KNEW I was only interested in girls) then keep an open mind and see what turns up
@beachball well maybe I should have worded that better I don't know if I'm attracted to guys they have never really done much for me but I always liked the idea of being swept off my feet and being taken care of I know I should wait and see what happens and thats what i planed to do anyway im just in general an impatient person but that is something I have been working on lol
thanks i really do need to work on my inpatients tho it kills me sometimes lol especially when im waiting for my new laptop to come in lol
It comes with time, hun. If you wait long enough ... you'll suddenly find you've been patient without knowing it
I would say try some guys you kind of like first . Most guys wont "sweep you off your feet" they might buy you a cheese burger , or pizza . Desert rat is a nic. used by a few hear in the south west U.S.A. I use it on sevral forums , it just stuck with me. desert rat
@BeachBall yeah its the waiting that kills me lol eventually I will get it tho lol @desert-rat yeah I tried that I have had six boyfriends and either they were jerks or I just never completely felt it for them i guess you could say and just so you know cheese burgers and pizzas are awesome lol and as for the desert rat thing yeah I know about it I'm from Arizona so thats why I thought at first you were referring to me and I got a little confused and scared until I saw your username lol
I agree. Also, if you dont want a lable dont put one. If you REALLY want one I would say your Bicurious.
I guess I would kinda like a label because it would make it a little easier for me to understand.. if that makes any sense and why Bicurious?
Bicurious means that you think you're one thing but wondering about the other. It's usually used to mean a straight who's wondering about experimenting with gay encounters ... but it can also be used the other way, to mean a gay who's wondering about straight encounters.
yeah that makes sense i think for a while im going to try to find some ladies lol and then ill just let things happen as they may we will see what happens lol thanks everyone for your help if im really uncertain about things i like to hear a lot of different opinions it helps clear my head a bit
