What's your take on this transaction?

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now man, i dont wanna be rude or anything ... but your sending her too many text messages ...

you shouldnt have sent her any , and when you walked by her, you shouldve asked her out ... at least thats how id have done it

 

I've only sent her those two texts from yesterday.
The facebook stuff was a substitute to start building rapport, since I didn't talk to her @ the party.

So other than that, I haven't really pressed anything. How is that too much?
BTW, when you say "ask out" you mean a date or 'be my chic.'

 

I wouldn't ask her if you did anything wrong... if she wants to respond she will if she doesn't than she won't... something may have happened to her phone.

 

by 'ask out' i mean like

---normal conversation----
'hey btw youve heard of that (insert event/concert/party/new place)?'
'....' doesnt really matter the answer ... 'yes' is better though lol
'wow we should go there sometime you know its awesome...'

your doing fine, youve got her number... i'd call her sometime from now (not to soon though) and 'ask her out' (see above)...

i read the post, i just dont like the texts becasue (i know this is gonna sound silly) it makes you sound like ... unoccupied? needy? ... you know, be aggressive but dont be interested ... i know that sounds crazy, but thats what women are right? lol

im on your side bro remember this

 

^ K. Got it thx. She was actually with a dude at the time lol. I totally ignored that and went for her # anyways. She's cute... I'm going to go for it.

I'm probably going to run into her eventually though and it's break, so I'd rather ask her out if I see her in person again @ something.

Would make the most sense. Just kind of forget her for now, display complete lack of attachment, ya?

*Warn me if it'll hurt, but tbh I see myself sending out another text 2-3 days later.. (I can put it completely behind me that way, instead of randomly thinking about it periodically over break which is far more annoying).

 

mmm ... i'd rather not you know .. (see below)

^ this

 

My take is that it is not a transaction; it was a moment of interaction between two people.

My take is that "gaming" should never be a part of such exchanges and that she probably just doesn't feel like texting you back. If she were interested in you (with the assumption that she's not socially retarded) then she would've replied by now.

Also, what you did was creeper status.

 

you lost me @fakebook..

 

Maybe she accidentally dropped her phone in the toilet or something...

 

she is probably creeped out that you looked her up on facebook when you hadn't actually spoken to her before.

 

Nah, it's a little weird I went the fb route, but we traded names @ the party/I sat by her & got to know her friends at least. And when I ran into her, she was the one that recognized me and said hi, so I don't think it's an issue anymore. Sometimes you just dive in and creep yo. Make no excuses about it.

Also... I kinda went my own route and texted her anyways just earlier.. and we're trading texts/talking again.
She's definitely being a girl about things though... It seems if she likes a response she'll hit back right away. If not, (or who knows the reason), then there's no response like last time. Fuuuck this.

 

grow up and stop playing games

 

Stop putting so much importance into the speed she replies to a text, she could be busy. Some people don't like to be detached from reality and put their phones away from time to time. Personally, if a guy communicates to me through text he's not that special, I prob have atleast 1 other guy that'll text me later that day or night. If a guy calls me or just goes ahead and hangs out with me then I'll remember him.

Remember as far as flirting with f/b and texts you're atleast 1 of 3 guys that's doing it.

 

Anyone still giving me creeper comments can fuck off. We talked back 'n forth for about an hour yesterday. Before that I didn't bother her so much as a fb friend request and a merry chirstmas text.

Yeah..It's christmas break right now. I'll ask her to hang out later when school starts. I also agree texting her too long will get old and go no where.

I'll up the notch when I can but right now, I don't think there's much I can push for. I'm happy enough she's comfortable giving me her # and texting with me (we talked about her not having a bf too ).

If i can defend myself here, she responds within minutes. I'm the slower one, and when the convo's over, I stop.

-- it seems I have my benefit at heart moreso than some of the responcees (Thanks to those that didn't judge me for attempting to get with a female ). So it looks like I'm on my own. Thx to ladybrun for the small bit of female perspective at least.

Peace.