How do I tell my parents I'm in love with a woman?

I'm only 16, and have had a few girl friends in the past, but I really, really, love this one. The problem is she has already come out to her parents, and wants me to come out to mine. But I'm scared to, because they are really into their Christian faith and think homosexuality is wrong. I am sure my parents think I am straight, because I have dated a few guys in the past when I was trying to be straight, but I just couldn't feel anything beyond friendship with them. A few of my friends know and they are accepting of it, but even they are iffy when it comes to telling my parents. Should I come out, or wait a few more years?

 

ur still just a kid dear, there will be plenty of time to figure out who u really are. if u feel like u should tell ur folks then do it. if u dont feel like now is the time to tell them, then dont. dont just do it because someone says you should. this is a choice ur gonna have to make for urself, not for anyone else. i would give it time until u have had more life experience and a better understanding of urself. im 21 and im still in the process of figuring out who i am...so just be patient dear, everything will work out fine.

 

Yes you are kind of young, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you can't be sure what you want. I agree with the previous comment that no one should tell you to do it. But don't wait too long because the older you get the harder is for them to accept it. If you are sure in what you want, there will come a point when you'll feel ready for it. Be patient.
Peace

 

write them a letter. First tell them you're pregnant and in a relationship with a big, hairy, much older and plain yukky man. Tell them you're going to drop out of school and move in with him and his other girlfriends. Then mention you need money for drugs and or the debt you owe to your mans' tattoo artist as your man wanted you to get a tattoo as an initiation to his biker gang. End the letter with just kidding. I wanted to soften the blow slightly, mom, dad- I'm a lesbian and I'm in love with a lovely, smart pretty girl. Now, isn't that better than being straight?

 

I think I am going to wait. I don't feel ready. Its to scary right now.

 

how have you heard your parents speak about homosexuality in the past? was is negative? are they homophobic? i talked to my mom first, because i knew that she is more accepting; and that she would tell my dad. hearing that i'm gay from her, he couldn't blow up on me or anything and would have time to cool down before we talked about it. maybe that was a cheap way doing it, but it worked.

 

I'm pretty sure they are both homophobic. Once my Dad wanted to see that movie Brokeback Mountain, because he likes western movies. Well when he told my mom about it, she said something along the lines of, "That movie is a love story about two gay cowboys." My dad was not happy and he yelled something along the lines of those fags are ruining everything in America. After that he never even talked about the movie again. Let alone watch it. So you can see why I am scared of coming out.

 

ultimately its your choice to tell them whenever you're ready. don't let anyone pressure you into it. you can't hide it forever, eventually they'll just kind of pick up on it. my mother told me when i came out to her that she already knew. take your time, and wait as long as you need to.