Help! He won't go down on me!

Greetings all,

In a pretty dire situation here, any and all advice welcome...

I recently started seeing someone new, and the sex is - different. Basically he hasn't gone down on me (though he seems to enjoy it himself!) and doesn't even really look into my face when we're having sex, even when faces are, you know, facing each other.

He's lovely, and intellectual and kind - I should probably mention at this juncture that he's from Afghanistan, and a practicing Muslim. My understanding is that there's some dispute among Muslim scholars about oral sex. As with all religions, the liberal end of the scale are fine with it, but google has also revealed some pretty frightening stuff: husbands asking desperately whether it's ok to give their wives oral sex, and being told he must cover her vagina with a sheet of plastic so as not to *contaminate* himself. So I'm now having a little bit of a freak.

I'll also say that he very liberal in most respects, and it's really not as bad as it sounds: he's very, very affectionate and cuddly afterwards, and the sex isn't bad - but how's a girl supposed to live without oral sex - I mean, really??

We've only spent a couple of nights together so far, maybe he's just too nervous? If something doesn't change I'll eventually have to say something. But I'm not sure how best to go about it really... Anyone have any experience in this area?

With thanks

 

Trim hair (or shave) + strawberry douche + edible underwear (or whipped cream, etc) = funtime.

Good luck!

 

Oh, and red wine too!

Edit: Oops, looks like wine is forbidden to Muslims (I just looked it up).

 

Oh no, he drinks wine. Like I said, very liberal, which is why I was surprised. It's a good plan, though!

 

Only... if this IS a cultural thing, I don't think edible underwear is going to do it.

 

speak to him about it.

 

sheer brilliance

 

Are you butt-ugly?

 

you dope...spin your bed so that its facing east if you want a muslim to look you in the eye while fucking you....as far as carpet munching...it all comes down to taste...he must be able to smell your vagina while he is fucking you and can tell that it will not taste nice..it has happened to every dude on this forum...go wash just to be sure

 

No eye contact means a problem with intimacy if that is something that you want you need to brake up with him and for future reference you never ever give up tit without getting some tat

 

I cannot believe that there is any mention requiring the use of a sheet of plastic whilst having Oral Sex anywhere in the Koran.

Once again this is indicative of mankind making up there own interpretations of ancient superstitions in order to adapt them to the modern day. They will be inflexible in adhering to ancient doctrine when it suits them to do so - otherwise they will just make up the rules as they go along.

Incidentally, this doesn't only apply to Islam, but to ALL forms of religion.

 

wash your self and suck for him and everything 'd be alright. if he won't, u can speak with him about it. i don't think anything is related to religion

 

remember when tony made fun of junior for muff diving?...its seen as a sign of weakness by morons world wide....and so be it...all the more for us

 

Personally I wouldn't give a guy head if he won't return the favor....but really the best thing to do would be to talk to him about it.

 

Yep. There was no plastic available back in 622.

Agree completely.

Some religions are more backwards than others though.

 

Maybe try a 69 position..so if he doesn't do it you can kind of move closer and closer to his mouth while pleasuring him. If that doesn't work then you should definitely at the least speak with him...I guess it could be a religious thing but damn....eating a girl out turns me on more than getting a blowjob lol

 

he will if he's guaranteed a blowjob lol

 

hey, i married a guy who refused to go down on me thinking it was going to be ok. i've always been very clean and shaven. my partner before him used to love going down on me.

if he won't do it and you want it then it's not worth your time. plain and simple.

 

I think it's in the bible="he who refuseth to munch carpet will burn in everlasting hell".

































































it is too!! I saw it.