I've been with my girlfriend for 2,5 years now and we are so much in love and want to live together for the rest of our lives but there is one thing that worries me a lot. In our relationship love making in general is great, it's so emotional and passionate and we both say we love it and all BUT I feel that I can't really pleasure her. My girl has never had an orgasm in her life, neither with any other partner nor when masturbating, with a vibrator or without it. And even though she told me that sex with me is better than with anyone else I still feel very insecure and here's why. When I give her a hand job or go down on her I feel that it's not as pleasurable for her as it should be in my mind. When she pleasures herself she does it quite hard and my hand simply gets tired way too fast when I do the same thing for her. Her pussy looks like a clam, which is very cute but it's super hard for me to get to her tiny sensitive clit, 'cause no matter how widely she spreads her legs her outer lips stay closed. And she's overweight so they also are quite big and when I bury my face in between her legs I can't breath out there. In addition to that my neck starts to hurt cause I'm uncomfortable even before my tongue gets tired. She's not very flexible and doesn't cooperate with me when I suggest trying some other positions for oral sex. She's a butch in the relationship and she doesn't want to be penetrated in any way, plus she doesn't enjoy breast play so that limits my ways of pleasuring her. She doesn't normally complain about it and doesn't blame it all on me, but just yesterday when I was able to say a very complicated word she said "I wonder why you aren't better at going down on me if you can pronounce words like that." That's very hurtful because I don't believe it's entirely my fault but I can't hurt her feelings saying that if she was less overweight and her vagina was more like mine I could do a lot better. Sorry for such a long story but I'm really beginning to despair. Maybe someone has been in a similar situation? Pls help!
Maybe g spot stimulation? It's not all that penatrative, a small vibrator rubbing against it can cause wild orgasms and even squirting. Try putting a pillow under her hips when you go down on her, it gives you a better angle to work with. Or, contraversial idea, you could talk to her about it. And maybe persuade her to lose some weight and make sex more fun for both of you.
Sweetie, it's not the fat around her vagina, it's the fat around her head. Women are mental creatures on so many levels when it comes to sex. I'd be willing to bet it's in her head and her lashing out at your skills is simply from her own frustrations. When I have sex with men, if there's any chance of getting pregnant, I can't come. End of story. With your girlfriend it may be a more complex thing than something like that, but my advice is to check her head. Your relationship sounds pretty solid on all other accounts so put the communication on the table.
