I want to know why women who are bi-curious say they are ready to go all the way, but back out behind bull Sh!t........
I'm a guy; and I think I'm really ready; but I dunno... I get this feeling that I could only do it with a very select amount of guys. And if I was trying it and it wasn't the right kinda guy, with the right amount of sensitivity, the right attitude, or even the right chemistry, I would probably back out. So that kinda thing could be it. But I think identity crisis plays a major role as well. That's a big part of why it's so hard to quit smoking or cut back on drugs; you experience dissonance with the "new you", and freak out because it doesn't seem right.
I think Duck's probably spot on. Plus, of course, when somebody says "I'm ready to do this", what they actually mean (and all they CAN mean) is "I honestly and sincerely believe that I am ready to do this". Even an honestly and sincerely held belief can be mistaken. Of those who honestly and sincerely believe that they can fly, some do not realise that they are mistaken until they jump off the bridge flapping their arms; whereas others will begin to question their belief the moment they step up onto the parapet; and, having questioned it, will step back down from the parapet without plunging into the river beneath. :mickey:
I agree the first time a lot of people feel like they are doing something wrong and then get very uncomfortable. I remember my first time with the same sex I felt like had disappointed my parents or like betrayed the idea of myself I had when I was younger. A lot of stuff surges through your mind because society puts so much enfesis on something so simple
dark suger, those are EXACTLY the things going through my mind now. Does that mean when I do find a girl I want to try something with, that I shouldn't? You got over those feelings right? How'd you do that? Does it feel right now? Tell me more tell me more
Hey Sugar yeah tell ya more. I am also getting over my confusion with male-male sex. Its hard because of social stigma and social influence on our perception.
Ok I hear. I remember the first time I smoked weed and got drunk when I was in college, but I never felt like I did something wrong. Just like I made those decisions then I also made another one when I decided that smoking of any kind wasn't for me nor drinking shortly after that. When you are a grown up somewhere in your life you are going to have to make decisions and stop balancing on the fence of may be or may be not. When you say you are ready it really should mean you are ready and before you say it make sure it's not well maybe after we text 5 more times and send another 10 pics, hell I don't need a freakin pen pal I won't to hook up, I'm not asking to have your child, it's for personal physical release....... I know I might sound like a harsh person but I'm really not, I just like to keep the REAL REAL and the games at the toy factory.
I'm not ready yet.. I got a few happenings in the past that really wasn't that fun so, i have to build up the confidence and let go of the fear and the past. But i need time.....
