I'm 16 and a half.. I'm a virgin and I've only had few relationships my last one being the most intimate where I actually got to make out (briefly at that) with my gf.. She used me as a rebound and now she's fucking some douchebag i dont know.. I've been watching porn since i was 13 I think. I can't remember the last time I've gone a week without porn. I masturbate at least 3 times a week, sometimes more, it varies with bordom, but I've masturbated 2 times a day before (rarely over that). Since I've turned 16 I've wanted sex so badly, I'm so tired of porn. I've started watching weird porn, like bondage, public sex, hentai, even shemales... I've tried a bit of everything. Regular porn is just so boring, a guy fucking a girl, it's all the same. Blowjob, sex, anal, whatever. I normally just skip through a porn clip because there's nothing new in it I haven't seen already. I'm very straight, I'm really attracted to girls but sometimes I worry that not having sex with girls will make me gay.. All I want is to have calm, passionate sex with a girl "making love" I guess. I look back at myself after watching weird porn and think "what the fuck is wrong with me?". It makes me feel sick, I just want to make love with the girl I love not watch weird fucking on my computer. I know the only thing that will fix this problem is getting a girlfriend.. But it just doesn't work, it took me a year to find a girl I wanted but she decided she'd rather be my friend than my lover. After watching porn I feel dirty and tired, like I need to take a shower, I stay up really late most nights watching movies or youtube or shit and it eventually leads to porn then sleep. As I'm writing this it's 3:45am and I just finished watching porn. What the fuck am I going to do? I have a feeling I'm going to be a virgin for fucking ages and my sex life will be horrible, and I'm stuck in the middle of this shit right now, like what am I supposed to do? God knows what will happen in the meantime. anyone feel the same?
Not having sex with girls won't make you gay. Having sex with men makes you gay (Not really, but it's a far better definition) You will have sex, don't worry. You'll look back and think yourself silly for ever thinking you wouldn't (I remember thinking the same when I was 14 or so) Don't feel dirty or as if there is something wrong with you for watching weird porn. Everyone likes weird shit, they just don't talk about it so much. There is a reason there is so much weird porn out there to begin with. Masturbation is perfectly normal and natural, hell, even healthy. I can understand getting bored of porn if you've never had sex, but trust me bro, you will come to points in your life where you would RATHER watch some porn and make love to your hand than your girlfriend. So not to worry friend, chances are really good you are a perfectly healthy teenager.
Thanks for the good reply, I understand your points. I love to rant sometimes, that's what that post was haha.
Taking a break from porn every now and then isn't a bad thing either. See how long you can go without it....you'll get the hankering back before you know it.
I was 23 before I lost my virginity, and even then it was as a result of a nymphomaniac, old enough to be my mother molesting me. At the time I did my best to resist, but eventually natural instincts kicked in & I've never regretted it since. Where your sexuality lies is predetermined in your genes from the moment you were conceived, and has absolutely nothing to do with whether you have sex or not. Furthermore, there is nothing at all wrong with being a virgin. I know peer pressure can make it difficult to openly admit to it, and I imagine that it may seem that you are the only one among your peers who is still a virgin, if what their claims are anything to go by, but the reality of it is that you ae probably more likely to be in the majority, and that most of your friends are also still virgins, with over active imaginations.
most porn IS boring, but don't let your perception of porn effect your experience once you do get laid-- i had a boyfriend who watched so much ..special interest porn that everything we did was shit boring to him (he was into gang bangs, interracial --nothing i could satisfy). porn also opened up this obsession with teen girls. it can be a poisonous thing. either way, you're only 16! you've got plenty of time.
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Porn is like everything else in life, if you want something good, you gotta search and search and search. Problem is by the time you find a great video your computer is filled with so many viruses it crashes and you cant watch the video anymore =(
I've been there before, trust me as soon as you find that first true girlfriend, by that I mean where you have a long relationship and love each other. I found that girl lost my virginity to her and after we broke up I was really confident with other girls and found myself getting into more relationships. Trust me you'll find her eventually.
That the truth! Lost my virginity age 14 to my older sister's friend and porn wasn't really a issue until I was in my mid-30s. After 20+ years of porn, I've settled on mostly amateur and hidden. Can't tolerate the commercial "slick" stuff.
I realise I'm a bit late in responding, but I think this is a common problem and an important one to get on to. You don't need to worry about starting to get turned on by guys - this might be something which troubles you personally, but it is not going to get you in trouble in terms of ethics or the law. What you need to be careful of is that you don't develop an interest in content which is unethical and illegal - I'm thinking mainly of child porn. Unfortunately I think that the internet, with its wealth of porn, desensitises a lot of people to a lot of material, and they end up needing something as extreme as child porn in order to be excited. The other stuff just doesn't do it for them anymore. Can I make a few suggestions? - Develop a healthy sexual interest in girls that you know in real life. Sure, you won't be able to watch videos of them getting it on, but you can probably get your hands on a few everyday pictures of them. Use your imagination - it's actually incredibly satisfying once you get used to the lack of explicit stuff to look at. - Don't be afraid to go right to the heart of your strongest desires. Figure out exactly what they are, and see if there's anything unethical or illegal there. Keep in mind that many fantasies would be unethical if they were acted on, but are quite manageable if they remain fantasies. Work out how you can continue to enjoy these fantasies in ways that are ethical and legal.
16 is quite young. I don't think that you have to stress about not having a girlfriend yet try not watching porn for a while. maybe also don't masturbate as much, twice a week tops all that ejaculating and watching porn will drain you not ejaculating and not watching porn will help you to cultivate your sexual energy, which will help you naturally gravitate toward a partner hope that everything works out soon!
Holy crap, Its literally like your're an exact copy of me, every single thing you said has happened to me. If you've overcome this issue could you please tell me how you did it, I need the help. Thanks man
Also just be patience you have nothing to worry about. Don't worry about the first time experience too much or lack of. Researching human health and sexual anatomy and how everything works also doesn't hurt to have under your belt during a first time experience. If you do find yourself during your first time, be calm, focused on her, and communicate and if she's shy as your doing stuff watch her reaction and communicate. Also don't just copy what you've seen visually in porn, half the time the angles are all wrong for what women like best in terms of clitoral stimulation. And this is weird for a guy to say but I've really enjoyed some of the free errotic stories written by random people on the internet. Some stories embellish more than others such as having medically incorrect descriptions of what happens during intercourse; like the penis penetrating the cervix so the womb is sprayed with semen doesn't happen in real life. That's a common one I hear a lot. But other than that I've found that pieces of literature don't raise the bar for constant visual stimuli since the images you see are up to your own brain's interpretation and control. Furthermore the story itself, makes the sex scenes feel a lot less dirty and more meaningful as you are kinda cheering or admonishing the characters but regardless you relate to them as people and not just flesh for physical pleasure. If the story is written well and realistically enough a reader might actually learn some things in the arenas of flirting/dating/sex because print can force the reader to see all different points of view from various characters that may even cross a gender divide. Of course there are bad stories too but you should be able to spot the bad ones as they tend to get cliche, the good ones focus more on plot and the sex is like part of the story and not necessarily the story in of itself. That's just my opinion though, and I think for the most part women prefer the literature and men prefer the visual stuff. If you send me a private message I can link you to a story I found pretty interesting but at the amount of posts you have in this forum total you can't PM me yet.
