Ok so i have two friends.One is my bestfriend andi truly love to pieces. She is the closest thing to a girlfriend that i have. We have messed around and if i decide to getin a relationship itwill be with her because i already love her. Ok insert her exgirlfriend who is also my friend and introduced us years ago. We arent extremely close but we are friends and hang out. Ok i got drunk at my friends house and we ended making out. It didnt go any further than thatbut apparently she has feelings for me. Apparently she has for years and i had no idea. She tells me now she doesnt want to be my friend because she can't handle it that i wont kiss her anymore. Is that fair. I mean she knew all along it was just a kiss and that if i choose someone it will be my bestie . I guess im new to the lesbian game and just have an easier time with guys.
Like xela said, it's obvious she's hurt but then again what did she expect?! You're bff's with her ex, whom of which you plan on possibly dating at some point. In other words, it really could not go past a kiss without it being really awkward down the line. If you're serious about your bestie, let the other chick be hurt, she'll get over it. You don't want to fuck up something good. My $.02
Is it fair? Well, there's an old saying that "all's fair in love and war" ... Like Xela says, she's hurt. You can't help that. But you can avoid doing anything to make her hurt more. If it was me, I'd probably say something like "Well, that's your choice. If you ever change your mind, I'll still be here" *big hug* It's not just lesbians who have these issues, so don't beat yourself up over it being because you're "new to being a lesbian". It's not. It's because you're human. And so is she. :mickey:
