how do I explain to my bf this before sex?

well my bf and I want to have sex we're very inlove well connected. Only issue is I feel he won't understand my issue.... I have a condition I was raised male. I have klinefelter syndrome but I have female features such as full lips deep blue eyes small body curvy long hair etc... He thinks I'm just a girl though. And I am. I've actually got an intersex condition. I look female but with sex he'd think I was trans even though I'm not. I don't know I want to take it to the next level but I'm scared of his reaction. If it will ruin things. What do you think?

 

Just tell him and if it runs him off then it's better it happened now instead of later.

 

how can you say youre very well connected if he does not know this about you? it's an integral part of who you are so in truth does he know you.. or the persona you've chosen to show him?

i'm not trying to be rude or nasty here, just real.

if someone did this to me i would feel as if i didn't truly know them and pissbolt..

i don't understand the condition you speak of, so your saying you have male genitalia?

if so, you would want to hope he has a very open mind if he thinks at present you have female genetalia..

but wat have you got to lose really... just suck it up and tell him, you really don't have much choice but to find out how he'l react yourself.. we cannot know how he'l react as we don't know him.

therefore, you probably have a better idea of how it'l go than anyone.

good luck:2thumbsup:

 

give him blowjobs for a little while and then when you tell him you'll fuck him up for the rest of his life because he's confused about whether he's gay or not

or he'll be cool with it.
or maybe he'll come out of the closet

 

mostly there are subtle differences but yea my condition is on a hormonal and genetic level. Reason I have curves and look to be female maybe I should say I'm too young but honestly I don't want to wait.

 

Maybe one issue is the fact that you are male, not female.
So your parents raised you as the correct sex.
You don't technically have an intersex condition, you have an extra X chromosome and that causes certain feminine physical characteristics to manifest, but you are still male.
What sex do you see yourself as?

Sounds like maybe that is an issue for you to sort/settle.

Bottom line though, you need to let this guy know about it, and be willing to accept whatever happens.
Remember, genetically, physiologically and socially you are male, so if you have portrayed yourself to this guy as female, you've been dishonest with him and yourself.

 

what you just described IS an intersex condition lol. I'm not male as much as someone with pais. Most sites will state that klinefelter's syndrome is an intersex condition. My parent raised me the wrong sex since physically it's been shown that I am not just physically male but female as well.

 

pull out your dick and be like, 'HAPPY BIRTHDAY!'

 

here yea it is an intersex condition. Cais only occurs in embryos with xy chromosomes. And develop normally only thing is they are infertile. So I guess you would try to say a woman with xy chromosomes does not have an intersex condition. Most intersex condition affect one sex type than both.

http://www.isna.org/faq/conditions/klinefelter

http://www.transfaithonline.org/intersections/intersex/types/

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/body/intersex-spectrum.html

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersex

 

Do you possess male or female genitalia?

Klinefelters is a condition that only occurs in males, so if you were raised male, you were raised as the appropriate gender.

 

Sounds more like you have two issues, klinefelters and gender identity issues.
Interrelated, but two different things.

 

no it isn't it's an intersex condition look at the links. But yea at birth we're mostly born as male in appearance but genetically and hormonally I'm not just male. That's what it's considered despite what any person with ks wants you to believe. Me on the other hand was not completely as my parents admitted to me my testocles were undescended at birth and had to have surgery to look average.

 

He might misinterpret this as "fooling" him.

Talk, lots of talk.

 

oh also I don't have gender identity disorder. Having ks precludes me from having it I don't even feel like I'm in the wrong body since I don't exactly look male.

http://www.hemingways.org/GIDinfo/about.htm

 

I feel sorry for him, he should already know this!
What are you waiting for, tell the poor guy....

 

that's what I DON't want. But I feel like how can we get closer without deception on his interpretation or himfreaking out.

 

seriously, it's over. no relationship founded on that big of a lie can survive. chalk it up as a learning experience, and next time you like a guy let him know what he's in for.

 

To me if you have girl parts , you are a girl . If you were born with both girl and boy parts that would be different . I guess the big thing is how you feel about sex with guys . If sex is no problem , tell him when you are married and have some kids . desert rat

 

If your boyfriend is as dumb as me, you`re going to have to explain better than you just did. Because I sure didn`t understand it. :biggrin: