Slutty on my part? Or should it be fine if I enjoy it. When I'm at my boyfriends I sleep naked with him and when I go to the bathroom I walk with a sheet just covering my body in front of his roomies. I insist that when we share a hotel room in Dec with two of his other roomies that he lets me sleep naked with him. Wrong? My sister is used to me being topless around her as I prefer to be and feel comfortable. My roomies are also used to me wearing barely anything around the house. It's for comfort purposes, not to show off. Wrong?
Based on other posts you've made, it would seem that part of the reason you are wearing "barely anything around the house" is not just for comfort, but for a certain amount of attention and admiration? I imagine the guys might enjoy getting an eyeful of female beauty, but depending on how much experience they have with casual nudity, will they eventually get resent this? Guess we don't know what they are thinking. If you are comfortable enough to be semi-nude in front of them, are you comfortable enough to talk with each guy in private one on one to see how he really feels when no one else but you is there to hear his thoughts? The fact that you posted your concerns here makes me think that you are not sure if you want that much attention from the other guys. Of course if all of you were naked all the time, it would level the playing field, wouldn't it? Might be nice if the other guys found girlfriends of their own too, wouldn't it? And if you are just college age, it might be too soon to settle down with one guy. For a lot of us, we need a few more years to figure out what kind of person we need for a soulmate. Of course continuing to live on one's own is an option too. A lot of people are happier by themselves, dropping in on friends from time to time, but having their own independent life for the most part. That's kinda how I am right now.
Greetings and blessings, my answers to your questions are quite short and easy: No! Actually, I believe that it's the dirty minds of some mainstream people who attribute female nudity as "slutty", whereas it's nothing but natural, regardless of a nudist's gender. (asked twice) - No! (to both questions). You made clear, that it's comfort reasons making you wish to be naked as often as possible. And I guess, in a forum centered on nudism/naturism and the fun and wellness aspects of it, you will hardly find anyone objecting your wish and reasoning. Enjoy your nude times and bare all as often as possible (well, perhaps not in front of some cops. ). Wiggling bare toes, ~*Ganesha*~
Ganesha, If the roommates were all nudist or at least tolerated it, we'd know how they would feel about it: no problem! But how do we know whether they are okay with it? Talk to each one! Does that make sense? In some cases, others can grow accustomed to nudity. Unless they tell her, It's anyone's guess whether her continued nudity will lead to resentment or acceptance. Naturally I hope that they will accept her. I admit that in this thread the only reason she gave for nudity was comfort, but some of her other posts seemed otherwise to me. Decide for yourself after you have taken a moment to look them over. If the guys stay covered up and she is the only one nearly naked, it may eventually lead to fairness, but it doesn't sound too fair so far. I hope she will write back to give us an update.
Yeah I wish I could be that way. I hate being alone :/ Thanks for the feedback. I'm new to this site and don't know how to quote yet... so if this post didn't work out, I apologize!
Burst, I understood you just fine. If you want to practice with the stuff inside those brackets (one for the beginning and the other for the end of the quote, you will figure out how to separate your comments from mine). I apologize for any logical errors in my response to you. I make more sense earlier in the day. Glad you found this nudist part of the forum. Being nude is way more comfortable of course in warm rooms or outdoors in the hot months. But most of all, I love nudist people. They have helped me enormously find a better way of life, a better way of thinking. Try to find a nudist place near where you live. There are a few bad eggs, but most of them are the best people in the world. There's a Florida club you really, really need to check out: Florida Young Naturists They have visitors from other states, so try it if you can.
Hi, i guess you did post your questions here for retorical reasons? No one from a nudist forum will advice you not to sleep naked with your boy if you feel like. You even cover up by some sheet when you walk in his housing. If the roommates of your bf don't feel fine with, they could tell you and you could find a common consens what is adequate. Obviously they didn't complain yet. And i guess they would even become comfortable to see you without any rags if you make them confident with step by step. Hey, we are not talking of endangering someone, just of walking around in a sleping room! So to make it short: all is ok if you feel ok with and the others do too. And i guess even if the others would feel bothered, this is nothing to label as "slutty". Maybe it would be inadequate or impolite. Take care!
pixy, In an ideal world everyone would be an articulate and forthright communicator. While this is true for some college students, not all have the social skills, the communication skills, the confidence in the rightness of their cause to speak out. I know that some women regard a man who is nude as inherently committing an act of sexual intimidation. I do not agree that nudity is always a form of intimidation, but we must deal with misconceptions every day even in Europe. If you think our way of looking at things is misunderstood in Europe, please come visit America and take your clothes off in the city park or at the beach when young families are around. I know that you mean no harm and you know that, but in many ways we have barbaric attitudes about the body here on this side of the Atlantic Ocean. I don't know why Burst has publicly worried about being considered "slutty" for . Has she heard someone use that word? Nudists try to respect the sensibilities of others who have immature attitudes, but the newer naturist movement brought a newer spirit of activism and efforts to reform textile society bit by bit. It is always a balancing act as we try to push for reform. We condemn the shame and lechery of the status quo. Sometimes we find it prudent to avoid conflict, sometimes we take people aside and show them the logical twin fallacies of body shame and a lecherous obsession with nudity. They are like two sides of the same coin. I am pleased with the gains made by activism. Top freedom in New York City parks, World Naked Bike ride, Spencer Tunick's nude crowds arranged in an artistic manner, etc... There are so many things helping our cause, breaking us out of our isolation, out of the silent ghetto we find ourselves in. And it is not just social reform demonstrations and artistic nudity that is bringing change: we also have the presence of two massive nude beaches, one in New Jersey at Sandy Hook and Haulover Beach near Miami Florida are open testimonies to the joy and freedom that await people who shed all their clothes for a day of fun at the beach. In parts of Europe this is common place, but in North America, it is a shocking radical concept to many in our insular world.
Hi GG, thank you for the lesson on social behaviour and US values. Maybe i wrote a bit misleadingly. I didn't talk to the US nation and called it to get rid of clothes. I just talked to a singele young woman who oviously is doubtful about her preference on sharing the bed with her boyfriend naked and on going in front of his dormmates inside a sleeping room wrapped in a sheet (I didn't talk about running around in a park naked). And i did tell her that such a behaviour, even if the others would be bothered by it, shouldn't be called slutty (a word that has a very bad taste for me). To be honest, i didn't even check out if b.a lives in the land of the free, down under or on Mars. You talked about "our way of looking at things". Do i really understand this right? You do talk for the whole US nation? wow! Well, i only do talk for me. ;-) Don't be cross with me !
Pixy, I have read some of your posts and as always, appreciate your insight! I prefer not to think of what I write as lessons, just opinions to discuss. I never mean for these thoughts to be the final word, just a starting point. The US way of looking at things is diverse, but it is not hard to guess the general attitude. Look at how paranoid the photo shops are about developing nude photos of families enjoying the privacy of their home. Look at how many laws there are against nudity, look at how few nude beaches we have. Yes, the general attitude is easy to discern. Thank God for those who have escaped this madness! With that said, let's return to the situation of our friend BA. We seem to agree that we don't object to her comfort with nudity. I know that her quotes were mingled with mine (she is still learning the fine points of editing text), but if you would kindly take a look, you will see that she is encountering some resentment from her boyfriend and shall we say "less than full comfort" with nudity from one of his room mates. So even if BA, you and I agree that it shouldn't matter, for some it does. It seems that things are not perfect for her when she visits. Should she be as nude as she wants no matter how hostile they are? I am not saying there is not hope for them to improve their attitude. Maybe if BA works carefully and over time, she won't be so misunderstood. Or perhaps she will decide that they are all too stubborn and that it time to simply walk away. That too is a possibility.
I don't see anything wrong with being nude. A person's body is something that they should love and be very comfortable with. I think you should talk to the people and see how they feel if they care. My guy and i we like to be naked. When he goes in the room and its just us the first thing he does is he strips down because its comfortable for him and he always sleeps naked and walks around in his boxers i like to be naked too. Usually i just talk around in a big t-shirt if im gunna have something on but even other times i don't i willl just walk around nude and of course he doesn't mind but its the way i am comfortable when i am around him. You put a sheet over yourself and cover up in a way so its not like your showing your body off to other people and i would say its not being slutty.
Burst has just showen me her forum she created. I took her laptop in private to write this without her knowing. I think if she wants to be naked that is fine. She should of pointed out her roommates are a lesbian couple and 2 bisexual males who are also a couple. Were a very happy home, and we express ourselves through creativity. Ie-Painting, writing, screenwriting, etc.. if burst wants to be naked to express herself then go ahead. I for one admire the confidence she has, and we both just snuggled up in my bed to watch a movie. Speaking from a bisexual male pov, it is great to have a piece of eye candy of the wonderful female body while being newly out and open with my relationship. We flirt, we laugh, we love, we live....I dont know why she doubted herself for this....The human body is a wonderful thing, and thanks to the others who supported her. GG on the other hand, while your pov is taken into consideration, your pov to get across is extremley daunting. I wasn't aware you spoke for the U.N, perhaps a curtsey or a bow down should be in order on my part! -Cheers peeps
Dear Burst Roomate, I apologize for giving the impression that I was speaking for the United Nations or even the United States. What I hoped to say was that the laws in the United States are harsh against nudity. If you disagree with my opinion, you are certainly welcome to do so and I invite you to offer your reasons why you think the United States is wise and understanding in its nudity laws and wise in its general attitude about nudity. Frankly I don't see the wisdom, but you are entitled to see things differently. In Burst's initial post she mentioned her boyfriend's roomates and mentioned that all of them live far away. I may have been confused between her boyfriend's room mates and her own. Too much late night posting on my part and I sincerely apologize. No harm meant!
Hmmm, that first sentence is a bit dangerous considering rules about using an online account without the owner knowing it... but, putting that aside, I must say that the description of your household sounds like a dream come true. I hope to soon read from burst.apart now being happily naked - and all of you with her, if you like - in your happy and creative home. :2thumbsup: Enjoy your nekkid freedom! Wiggling bare toes, ~*Ganesha*~
