I dont understand

Latley Iv been feeling really sad for no reson. Iv also started cutting myself but I am trying to stop because my Friends are noticing and not happy AT ALL.

Could I be Depressed? Also, when I was little my Nickname (In Elementry) was: The Devil :devil: and I NEVER knew why. People NEVER told me why. Then I got Thretened closer to Jr. High and in Jr. High STILL people would be mean to me and NEVER tell me why. The Devil :devil: Name went away though.
If I am Depressed, could it be from all these events just suddenly coming over me?

Thanks.

 

If you feel sad all the time and cut your self , there is a problem some where. You should either see a doctor , or do some kind of self work, yoga medation , ect. desert rat

 

Self harming is a cry for help. See a psychiatrist or psychologist asap!

 

Im a Dancer. Dance is really the only thing that makes me feel kind of better. My Friends tell me that when I feel like Cutting Myself I should either Call one of them or go Dance.

Will they put me on Medication if I go to a Doctor?

 

I don't think you should automatically think about being put on medication, think about why your feeling depressed , do you feel alone, do you feel rejected from society, did what happen to you in school make you feel unappreciated in life.

 

How old are you? The teenage years can be kind of rough and depressing and full of angst because your hormones are fucking out of control, but depending on the circumstances surrounding your depression, medication may be a bad idea and ill-advised. If the feelings you are experiencing is normal for your age, it may be best to seek counseling rather than medication, to help you better deal with what you are experiencing. Cutting isn't a healthy means of releasing emotions (this is coming from a past self-injurer, haven't done so in 6 years or so), and there are lots and lots of ways to focus your energy that are constructive. Tap into your creativity, create something out of the sadness. You may discover talents you never knew you had. Seek therapy before you seek a medical doctor, medication may not be what you need.

 

Dont be afrade to go to a doctor , you may be able to deal with your problems just by talking . I dont know what your belief system is , I believe we are reincarnated . Your problems could be from things that happned in a past life , not this one . desert rat

 

Ok. Iv heard ALOT of bad things from a Teen being put on Medication. Thanks you for the Information.

 

Also, what if I dont know what caused my Depression?

 

I could guess , but with out examining you , it is only a guess . It could be from some thing bad happing to in this life or a past one . It could be a medical problem that only medacation can help .For some people drugs do help . Some people get depressed just from being locked in to a boring life, like if you live in a part of the world that is cloudy and rainy all the time . desert rat

 

Please get help asap. Maybe a counselor. You may have depression. I cut myself too... the sooner you get help the better you will be in the long run. Cutting can become an addiction. The more you do, the harder it will be to stop. I have been cutting for over 10 years and have a lot of nasty scars all over my arms and legs. Message me if you want to talk.

 

lots of people go through bad times and some deal with it and others can't take it and break down. just like some people when they are mad at another person they just deal with it and other people assault the person they are mad at. you gotta have self control and if you don't then you might need to go to a mental hospital where you can't harm yourself anymore.

I do not believe in locking people in mental hospitals in most cases but when a person harms themselves and can't control themselves then they need to be put somewhere where they can be watched to make sure they do no more harm.

 

Just one question, what is the nature of your self harm, there are many reasons.

 

I would have to say, rugor, that when people under 18 (as the OP seems to be) hurt themselves at all, they should basically be in a strait jacket until they can behave themselves, IMO.

I've known a lot of people who have done it. And it's basically a cry for attention, not a cry for help. And then it really does develop into an addiction for other reasons, sort of like opiate users and the needle ritual.

So.... Learn to behave. People calling you shit doesn't hurt you, you're the only one hurting you. You're probably depressed because of hormonal shifts, or other things in your life you haven't mentioned or wouldn't even think would contribute to it. You can work around those, but self harm is something that destroys many peoples lives, when they never even really had any problems in the first place.

 

I'll have to disagree as the OP said their friends are starting to notice and wants stop. A cry for attention would be publicly displaying said cuts, this seems not the case. without further info from the OP it is hard to come to a reason why they self harm.

 

It's never "intentional". They'll spend months wearing hoodies and stupid stacks of ugly braclets to hide it. It wouldn't work so well to just throw it out there, the attention wouldn't be nearly so sincere or worried, if the faking was that obvious.

I didn't say the individual consciously knows they're doing this, by the way.

 

Faking what, mental anguish, I have experienced self harm first hand, still do.
Unless you have personally experienced please check your wording.

 

yeah but what the heck is the point? if you are mentally not feeling good and feel horrible what he heck is cutting yourself gonna do to change that? its not gonna fix your problems so its pointless. it just like the sad person who does heroin to feel better then 2 hour later they feel shitty again.

I am sorry but if a person can't control themselves and cut themselves to feel better then they need to be in a mental hospital where they can be watched.

If you want my honest opinion I just think it is straight up stupid. and as roorshack suggested yes sometimes it is for attention cus they want people to get all emotional and show care and love and support.

 

It starts for one of a number of reasons, from "they'll be sorry for THIS", without considering that "they" can't see it, at that time, to "wonder if I can trade pain" or whatever. Like I said, it becomes a complex mix of emotional problems, similar to the needle fever. There's people who shoot up water just for the rush of shooting, not shooting anything in particular. This gets the same: the ritual and various attached meanings get totally twisted and blown out of preportion.

And yeah, I don't personally hurt myself. I've known so many people that have that I have a tendency to be really pissed at those who choose to start, and don't stop, while they still have a choice, like some sort of apathetic half assed "hey guys I cut myself, any idea why?" on the internet. I get very frustrated with them because it's a VERY rare behavior on it's own, but when one person does it, it spreads like wildfire, it's basically one of the world's most insidious life-destroying "trends". And it's this complex system of emotions I mentioned, once the idea has been presented, combined with the idea that it couldn't REALLY be addictive, or that I'm better than being addicted to hurting myself of all things, etc.


So yeah. It's frustrating, and as much for the good of other vulnerable impressionable people as themselves, I think people who refuse to stop hurting themselves should be contained in such a way to prevent self harm until they can learn to control it. Of course, I'm not saying throw them in a box, they need help, but they also need restraint if they refuse to practice their own restraint. I don't accept an "I won't help me and neither can you" attitude.

*edit* also, I actually DO remember doing things like that. Not cutting or anything, of course, but breaking my own toys or other possessions, maybe hitting myself (in a calculated, not TOO painful way, which could become comforting because of the comfort it might get from others, I should imagine, though I thankfully was not rewarded like this). Maybe making poor decisions with my allowance, or something else dumb. And you know what? That kinda stupid shit was over and done by the time I was ten years old, and I was making healthy calculated "bad" kid decisions. I think in most cases, self harm shows a very under developed person, who should basically be playing with blocks and who's parents should be in prison, if it extends past the jr. high age.

 

cutting is really common, I mean statistically in america. maybe in the circle you run with it isn't apparent, but it's there.

cutting is not a life destroying trend. I want to assume you're being sarcastic. I mean seeing your friend buried after he OD on heroine. Turning away your uncle who just needs a little more cash for just a little more meth. Those are life destroying trends. Cutting is an entry-level reaction. Not to minimize the fact that the feelings behind cutting can fester into terrible habits,

and that's the key OP to not ignore or compound the problem. when you're young and trapped and ostracized it's intense. things get better with time; your ability to find better people grows and your tools to silence the ignorant and angry population matures. I try to keep away from all the generalization because in my life they really fell on deaf ears. But there's a reason why you're depressed, hopefully it is situational and not chemically but if you don't spread time talking it out (with really really good very very trustworthy friends) or a therapist. You'll never know. I know a cutter and he isn't lashing out at anybody. He enjoys making scars just like he enjoys smoking cigarettes.

Rooshack your advice is aggressive and more judgmental than anything. If you had any relevant experiences in your life they apparently haven't sunken in.