So when a girl says they don't care about the size, just how guys use it, what exactly is the best way to use it? I guess I'm basically asking how to have sex good but I really want to give my girl the most pleasure as I can. Dumb question but I'm young and inexperienced. And also, when girls say they weren't happy with big guys because they didn't know how to use it, what exactly did they do wrong?
There's no hard & fast rule (no pun intended), as everyone is different in what they most enjoy. However, if there is one hard & fast rule it's to follow the lead of your partner & to adjust your technique to the moment of what is working best. As a rule, due to having a generous girth, I've found that taking things slowly tends to work best, as opposed to the rapid pounding generally found in so many porn videos, but having said that, I've also found that many women may like to start this way, but accelerate into a harder & faster tempo. I can promise you that if you focus on constantly adjusting yourself to following what best suits your partner, the outcome will be that you will get the best from it all yourself.
eh, they really just mean that it's more important how they feel about the guy than how big his dick is. of course, using it well doesn't hurt, it's just not what they're actually referring to. they didn't happen to be the right guy. and they may have slipped it in the pooper.
I think confidence is a key factor in how good sex can be. If you're confident in yourself, that comes across. As a female, I don't think wholly that size matters. In regards to feelings, if I like a guy, then I really don't care about the size of their penis. Of course, depending on which positions you do, penetration can be deeper. I've always found that doggy style and cowgirl give a greater sense of penetration, in particular with cowgirl as the girl can control how deep they go. Maybe if you start with some hot foreplay, and then tease her with the tip of your penis and create a sense of building tension... and then move on to entering inside her. With the girls being unhappy with big guys question: I've been with someone who had a pretty large girth, and if he were to just quickly and constantly just thrust me into me with it with no alteration, then that would be boring and could also hurt after a while.
I wouldn't really worry about trying any harder or getting a technique down. When girls say they don't care about the size, they are just humoring you.
Best sex for me (I'm a girl not sure if it's shown lol) is when a guy is cuddling then we start into kissing and hugging..they are kissing me all over down my Neak and tummy, and really build up to it...if your into it go kiss down all the down her and start licking her and rubbing her <3 if u have both been together for while and they'd love it's even better P.s you can normally tell how turned on the person is by the kinda glazed look in they're eyes
Lol it is a girls way of saying "I don't really care as long as I get my orgasm". This is because even if guys have big dicks, that doesn't guarantee satisfaction, since most women only orgasm when their clitoris is stimulated. So really the size of the penis is quite irrelevant if you don't know how to please a woman. So I guess knowing how to use it would be trying not to ejaculate too quickly before they can have their fun (unless you can go for another ride soon), and knowing her hot spots (g-spot, clitoris, playing with her bum/boobs, etc whatever floats her boat).
With a larger man, it tends to hurt when they are not so gentle. Remember, just like with all men, women are all built different, and every womanhas their ownpreference. Aswith the nice lady above said, cuddling is a big factor with me. Just go slow, and don't hurry.
A guy who is "good" at sex is a guy who suppresses his desire to get it off as soon as possible, but who instead concentrates on making the experience as pleasurable for the woman as possible. This usually means slowing down, and doing to her what she wants done to her to heighten her pleasure and giving her an orgasm if possible. Learn which sexual position she likes best, be romantic (candles, incense, privacy, dim light), and what warmup activities she enjoys (nipple play, kissing (and where?), oral sex on her clitoris and vagina, G Spot stimulation, etc.). Give yourself entirely to her and be there not to service your penis but to make it the best possible experience for her, so she hungers for it again and again. The size of your penis has nothing to do with this; in fact, most women are afraid that a large penis will hurt them when it is inside them.
Honestly - we girls aren't all the same you know! Try asking the person you're actually going to be sleeping with! Why does it seem so hard for some people to open up about what they want in the bedroom?
Communicate about preferences before you start Foreplay - more is better Don't enter her before she is ready Enter slowly and gently - then pick up the pace Don't come too quick Snuggle a little before you get up As you get more experience, you will learn how to find out from your dick whether or not things are going well for her. When you feel her vagina getting dry, something is not right. If she really loves what you are doing, she will get extremely wet. Also, if you are having a hard time finding the hole, you need to just grind your shaft on her labia for a while. When she is really turned on, you will feel her vaginal opening make kind of a funnel shape that is easy to enter. Be a selfish jerk in bed the first time, and you may not get a second chance. And she may tell her friends that you suck. But I don't think the OP is going to be like that.
its alllllll about foreplay.. you have to let the bathtub fill up before you go diving into euphoria.. so in other words, don't rush it, do everything you can to get her moaning before the sex even starts, then.. it should be smooth sailing ya dig
Hello Everyone. I am a new member...I read the posts here with much amazement....I have never understaood why MEN, in particular, are so hung up on the SIZE of their "Penis"....I have had 80+ Sexual relationships with Ladies in my 52 years. I have never seen 2 that were exactly alike in any way. One cannot say well, "this worked on Joan and it will work on all women..." The Ladies are, in all ways, like us men....We are all different in our own ways. IF EVERYONE were the SAME, where would the excitement come from of having multiple relationships?? What makes one lady scream in esctasy may very well piss off another. There is one particular thing I have found that most all want...That is ATTENTION, Cuddling, FOREPLAY and a lot of touching, kissing and talking to....tlling how much you enjoy, love and care for them and overall being totally romantic with them. Some of the BEST Loving I have every gotten was from doing some of the very smallest of things for the Lady in my life at the time....send her Flowers at her work or if she doen't work, at home while you are away....Just write on the card..."I am thinking about you and Love you"...or when you get home from work, there she is worn out as well...snesk up on her from behind, wrap your arms around her and kiss her neck and run your hands through her hair....without saying one single word! I did this to many of the Ladies over the years and I can tell you...MOST of the time, they will drop everything and drag you into bed and literally whip you .....not beating but by making love to you like never before. Unless of course you've been together for many years and are tired and bored to death with each other. In that case there is not much I can say that will help. As for "Size"....I am at an average size and a little thicker than average. I've been laughed out of locker rooms as when flacid I am very small....1" and if it is COLD less....LOL. But erect I am as big as any average guy. This is a turn on for many ladies....to see a man go from a baby size to 6" is amazing to most. This will turn on some Ladies....While others do not care about it ... just as long as it works and the man will do his best to find out what she likes and wants. My latest relationship, since 2006, is totally different than any I have been in. This Lady will orgasm within 3 minutes of entering...IF I do what I have found that drives her crazy! IF I TEASE her and do not do it from the very beginning, she will scream at me, "QUIT F'ing around with me like that and do WHAT YOU KNOW TO DO"!!!! I will get a big laugh (To myself)...NEVER laugh at a Lady about sex!!! UNless you are wanting to end the relationship. Mainly my friends, PAY ATTENTION to HER, no matter if you are giving her oral, or kissing and licking her body...or gentle sucking on her body as you venture all over (I LOVE DOING THIS!) OR when you are doing the actual penetration, thrusting etc...PAY ATTENTION to what makes her wiggle, squirm, MOAN. When you find this, don't just do that one thing....find other things and work on finding these area and movements that drive her crazy! I have never had a relationship go sour due to poor sex....It has always been for her children, money, wanting or demanding more than I will pay for something....mostly little things that actually build up over time. I am a Man who knows Life is VERY SHORT in years. We only live ONE TIE....life is too short to be miserable in relationships when we can do something about it. I know you all are wondering..."How many times has this idiot been married"? Well I have been married ONE TIME my friends. I will never do that again. If I ever find ONE lady who will treat me the exact way I treat her and respect me as I respect her then...MAYBE I would consider making it legal on Paper. As I say, Life is too short to be miserable for the reasons mentioned. I hope this helps....Tee
Don't be so fast to put it in. Take your time. Talk to her, snuggle with her, fondle her. When she starts to respond, don't stop. Make her want you to lick her pussy. When she asks you to lick her, don't. Keep the heat building for a minute or two. Once you lick her, wait for her to come once or twice. If she asks you to enter her before she comes, resist until she pulls your head up. Once you are inside, go slowly. If she comes first, you're free to finish. If not, maintain a smooth pace. Kiss her while you're inside. Whisper to her. Tell her what you're doing and want to do. Once you get experience with her, you can move to more adventurous things (if she doesn't suggest them first :reddevil. There's no one formula. We're all different. I'm just telling you what I'm in the mood for now. It could be different tomorrow. In other words, take HER lead, (unless she wants it dirty, then she's all yours! :reddevil
