Why would you stay friends with an ex?

There are only two exes I am still friends with but I would be really sad if either one of them was out of my life completely. They are wonderful people and through our relationships we created bonds of friendship that have lasted past the romance. It's not easy at first but it can be done.

 

My friends are people I fallen in love the hardest with

I can count them on my fingers and toes and I can't imagine without them.

 

so your mind is like a blank screen when your friends aren't around?

 

would I? Yes since we are still friends. we loved each other and that will never change, even after i destroyed the relationship. honestly it was rough and we had to spent a year with little contact to become stableish. I have cheated on my girlfriend with her and she has cheated on her boyfriend with me during our 3 year friendship after a 6 month long relationship (estimates of time) so I don't know what that says.

on the other hand another ex were it was always physical and there was never love just a whispering undercurrent of like. this girl I have never seen. we saw each other for the other physical company so a friendship has no meaning or purpose and doesn't exist.

 

it says that you're not really friends and you're both shitty boy/girfriends.

 

I've got lots of girl friends. Not 'girlfriends',pray notice.
I've never actually 'split up' with a girlfriend,because I've never had one as in 'You-and-me-exclusive'..

LOTS of girl friends though-many of whom on occasion like to play kisschase,or have their lustful itch scratched,so-to-speak.

I do have a couple of former friends,who've got the hump at some point and stalked off-usually because I wasn't obeying their rules.
I don't like imposed rules.
I'm decent,honest,unaffected by my wealth and [usually] friendly.

So I'm BUGGERED if some female is suddenly going to dictate to me who I can/can not speak to or spend time with.
It's not a sex thing,sex doesn't even come into it.
it's just a deep seated feeling that no way on this sweet earth am I going to risk going through what my parents did-which was why I spent most of my time as a child in various foster homes.
Where I met LOTS of other kids who's parents just could not get along in monogamous partnerships or cope with their restricted lives without huge fallout

So-yes,I'm friends with all the girls I know,and no,I haven't fallen out with any ex's.

 

I would stay friends with an ex if we had a good friendship. At first, it'd be really hard, so obviously time would be needed. I've always found that when I break up with people, I try to get them out of my life so I can deal with it easier... which in itself can be a shame. But, with one or two of my ex's, there was a friendship aswell, so sometimes it's worth being friends so that you don't lose that too. It depends on the terms of the break up and how the two people feel, entirely subjective.

 

You two are the reason why so many people have an issue with exes remaining friends.

Personally, I do not mind the idea of staying friends, but it does depend on the circumstances. I broke up with a boy after 5 months and genuinely wanted to be his friend after simply because I liked hanging out. I just didn't want to be his lover, cos I didn't see him that way. He on the other hand loved me and couldn't be my friend because the thought of not having me was unbearable for him.
So, I believe that if you have lost/never had the sexual chemistry or emotional connection that being partners entails, it's fine to be friends but if it's still raw and bubbling it really is NOT a good idea. Especially if you are seeing someone else. You have to consider your new partner's feelings, and if you can't let go of your ex then you really shouldn't be seeing anyone in the first place.

 

Speaking as an 'Oldie' I don't see anything wrong with it - It was and to many still is, an expression of free love and sexual satisfaction.
If people can still remain on good terms I feel you have to look at it as; not so much friends with benefits but, friends with good memories

 

The people I chose to be with in the relations I had, wouldn't make good friends.

Were I actually in healthy relations based on something(s) other than sex than yeah remaining friends would be worthwhile probably.

 

Where does the love go when you break up with someone?

Its still there, and I don't understand how people can walk away and act like that person no longer has a significance in their lives.

My ex boyfriend is one of my best friends. He and I love each other. We aren't in love with each other anymore because we were horrible together, but we're great as friends and we still have basic love for each other. I also love that his new girlfriend makes him happier than I ever could. Love is unselfish like that.

My boyfriend and I hang out with him and his girlfriend all the time. It might be weird but I think it shows a certain level of maturity and security on all our parts.

 

I'm just immature, the love doesn't go anywhere but my selfishness gets in the way. It is a common problem.

 

For the sex duh

 

My ex and I broke up after 7 years, but kinda stayed friends. For a long time, we were just having sex and hanging out, just couldn't be together since we fought constantly, but the sex was intense and wonderful, until I broke that off when I met the wonderful man I have been married to for 14 years. I am still friends with the ex, but seldom talk to him, partly because he still wants me to have with him and give him blow jobs.