Alright, so here's the story: I met this gorgeous girl on july 1st at a party. We were talking it up for a little while, and it was pretty clear that she was flirting with me. I decided to go for it, even though it was clear as day that she was straight. We ended up hooking up and it was totally her idea. I figured, alright. It was probably the alcohol that made her to that. And I thought that for a long while, until we hooked up again the weekend after at another party. And we've been hooking up for 4 months ever since. Needless to say, I've developed strong feelings for this chick but she's turned me down every single time I've asked her on a date. We stopped fooling around for a little bit because she said it wasn't fair to me, that she liked the attention. But just the night before that happened, we spent the night together and talked for hours. She told me she was straight and that she just wants to be friends. So we stopped for a little while, but soon continued. After having a conversation with her about this, she told me that she thinks I'm totally awesome...but she's still very confused about her feelings. This girl will not give me a straight answer. She told me she thinks about me a lot but she's scared to hurt me if things don't end up well; thus why she isn't dating me. She's scared to lose me as a friend. But she also told my friend that she likes me a lot, but she wants to be seen as a straight girl. And it's not like she's a manipulator or a using person, she's a really nice girl. And she's sincere when we talk about this. I'M SO CONFUSED. Does this chick ACTUALLY like me? Should I keep going for it? It's been 4 months. I've never waited/chased a girl for this long. I'm driving myself mad thinking about her day and fucking night. Thoughts?
Of course she wants you ... but she doesn't want to want another girl ... so she's the one who's confused here. She's telling everyone she's straight. She's telling you she's straight. She's convinced herself she WANTS to be straight. And then she's found she just can't keep her hands off you. Which isn't in her game plan ... and is confusing the hell outa her. Stay with it. Keep cool. Give her time and space to make her mind up. It's a VERY difficult thing that she needs to do now ... which is to recognise, and admit to herself, that she's actually bi, or possibly les, but certainly not wholly straight. And once she's recognised and admitted that, she's gotta decide whether to come out abotu it ... to close friends, to you, in public? Unless and until she's reached the stage of being willing to come out in public then of course she's not gonna date you. It's hard for you, I know, But you mustn't rush her or you'll probably both end up gettign hurt. So give her time, be patient, and enjoy teh loving you're gettign when you get it :mickey: Big hug from me. Becky
I guess I'm just worried that all this waiting will be put to waste when she decides that she actually doesn't want to be with me.
If it is, it is. She's gotta make the decision , though. And you can't rush her. Of course, you COULD decide that YOU'RE not prepared to wait for her ... but I kinda get the impression that you don't just want to walk away ... :mickey: Have a big hug from me. I reckon you could use one ...
Take it day to day and enjoy the moment. Try not to think too far ahead of what Could Happen! Anytime you get involved with anybody weather they are straight, bi, or gay you always have a chance of getting hurt, it's our human emotions I agree with the earlier reply, keep your cool, communicate as much as you can....l was their once upon a time. It does take time to process your feelings....epecially when their soo strong but for the opposite sex She is in too you, she just needs time for the thought of dating or relationship with you. Good luck and enjoy your time with her
