Confused about my sexuality

I never had an issue with gays. I did grow up in a VERY religious family but never was religious myself. I officially quit the church. I always thought guys were cute but just their face. Their bods never turned me on. I have had very few best friends. I think about it now... I wouldn't mind getting involved with a female. I actually think that a female could meet my needs more than a man ever could. Could I have been gay all my life without realizing it? I mean how does it work? Do all gays know they're gay all their life? I can honestly say I never have found a man sexually attractive. Nor a woman. I thought maybe I am asexual but I would like to be in a relationship with a woman. Having sex with a woman, I'd be curious to see what it's like. But I know the emotional and love would be there. I don't know... I'm confused.



My "ex" husband says I can't be asexual because I have sex, and because that I "like" having sex. Just because I respond to it doesn't mean I actually LIKE it right? I never responded to liking his or male's bodies. Just the feel of sex. RIGHT?

 

our sexuality can be a fluid thing - it can change as we get older, or you may always have been 'bi-open' but just not realised it. After all we all grow up with the expectation of society that we will be heterosexual and enter into an opposite sex realtionship.

Go with your gut feelings - nothing wrong if you find that you are attracted to both sexes; you may be emotionally attracted to one more than the other.

Good luck exploring

Simon :sunny:

 

Thats okay. I don't really get it myself. lol ummm... okay,

I guess my question is to you:
Am I considered asexual, bisexual or lesbian?

*I know for a fact I am NOT sexually attracted to men.
*I have sometimes felt something for a woman.
* I don't think I am sexually attracted to women though
*It's true that my needs would be met being with a woman, emotionally and sexually.


Any other questions?

 

Yeah, willy blue... what you just said sums it up. I mean if there were to be sex involved with a woman then that would be okay, cuddling is a huge one for me... it's an emotional need for me. Sooo what would that make me? An asexual or lesbian or both?

 

What are your needs? Do you want to encounter a relationship with a woman? Not everyone is automatically attracted to someone sexually, so its okay, Are you looking for a emotional/mental connection more with someone?

 

how do I turn my pm on. I found it but yea

 

dreamsdocometrue,

I do want an emotional/mental connection with someone. But I also want to be in a relationship. I want to be loved and to love unconditionally, I want the closeness and human touch. I don't want to feel insecure or uncomfortable. I want someone to be able to get close to me without the need or want for sex. Is that too much to ask in a person?

 

And I don't think a straight guy could be that for me.

 

And I don't think a straight guy could be that person for me.

 

No that is not to much to ask in a person. If you don't think a guy can do that to you then maybe you should try dating woman, start going on dating websites etc and start looking. Right now I will consider you bi curious because your curious about what you want in significant other.

 

Yeah but I can't be bi because I know for a fact I don't want a man...

 

Well I found out what I am. I am called a homoromantic asexual.

 

Quote from Wikipedia:
However some asexuals who identify as straight, gay, lesbian, or bi before asexual, or simply prefer that terminology, will sometimes refer to themselves as "straight asexual" or "asexual lesbian". This simply means the same thing as a "heteroromantic asexual" or a "homoromantic asexual."


Your looking for emotional love and affection - whiich may or may not lead to sexual activity or not.

Go for it - we all need that,

Simon :sunny:

 

That is exactly how I feel.