When should I loose my virginity?

I'm a 16 year old female in the United States. I kind of want to get my first time over with. People always scold me for caving into my society but thats not it. I don't feel pressured to do it, I just want to get it done with. When I am with the person I love, if they're experienced, I don't want them to think I'm stupid. I feel like I'm undesirable. All of the boys I like end up being the more experienced ones, and I just want to feel comfortable doing that and not having to worry about popping my cherry or anything else awkward that happens the first time...

What should I do?

 

It sounds like you've already made up your mind.

 

No, not really. If I made my mind up, I would have done it already. I've come close, but I always second guess myself.

 

What stops you? If you hear yourself give the reasons then you may find the answer that is right for you at this point in your life.

 

You'll know when it's right because it will stop being a question. That's when you know that no matter the outcome, you've come to a place where you'll be at peace with it. For me, that didn't happen till I was 24, and I wouldn't have it any other way. It was a little awkward, but not really, because we were in love and he didn't care. And now we're engaged.

Sex is better with someone you're in love with because then you both laugh at any awkwardness, he knows exactly what you like so there's no risk in getting a guy that doesn't know what he's doing (and remember, in high school ALL the guys are horny idiots. They couldn't find the clit if you put it on Google Earth). Anyone who cares about you isn't going to think you're stupid because it's your first time. I'm not saying you have to wait as long as I did, but wait for someone who puts their heart before their dick. You're in a tough age, because you've got slim pickings (no pun intended), but you're by no means old for a virgin. Remember: the awkwardness will happen no matter who it's with, but I would think it would be more awkward with some random person who didn't really care about you, and just wanted to get off. Just my 2 cents.

-Kate

PS: USE CONDOMS!! (sorry, I'm a nurse, haha)

 

This

 

Oh, don't worry I'm pretty sure THEY would not be worried about this.

 

Thank you so much. That is the best advice I've gotten. And of course. I may be a teenager, but I know about safe sex.

 

When you know the difference between loose and lose.

 

december 21, 2012.

 

if you are scared of your first time being awkward and want to be well aware of yourself. You could pop your own physical cherry with a dildo learn exactly how you would like to be fucked and cut out some dude who you just wants to get off (or worse bragging rights).

personally life is full of firsts, and in my life they have been treasures I carry and "should" and "love" have never seemed to mix. I find the separation of sex and love to be a disheartening trend.

(though I fucked a boy at 16. I didn't really care about him and that "thing" meant very little to me emotionally but back then most things did. later my first time with a girl was at 18 she was someone who I liked, and over time we ended up loving each other.)

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

i am a boy, so yes my virginity is less of a physical barrier.

 

If you are not too sure I would say wait a little longer. My two good friends lost their virginity around 17 with people whom they later on had long-term relationships with. Although I lost mine at 21 with someone who turns out wanted nothing more. I wish it could have been something more because regrettably I kind of just did it on a whim. I feel though guys have less to lose (no pun intended) when having sex. I could be wrong. If you're a girl you should give it more thought and see what the emotional consequences are, not to mention physical outcomes like STD's or pregnancy. Although it might not be likely if it's just your first time, I wouldn't take the risk.