Is getting to cum the only thing that matters? Do you find enjoyment in getting there as well as cummin? The actual cummin takes what 5 or 10 seconds, but getting there can takes hours if done the right way, Is this old fashioned or still a value to you?
Well, I orgasm so quickly, if we stopped when I came, it would be very sad... LOL So, in my book, orgasm is not the end result of love making, but just a lovely part of it...
having an orgasm is important. It kind of sux though cuz i havent had an orgasm in months.......... 9-10 months that is. I get so close to orgasming then my fiancee cums rolls over and goes to sleep. Nice huh?? It's kind of funny cuz he asks before rolling over "did you cum?" duh of course i came you should ask if i had an orgasm or not. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. so um yes having an orgasm is important to me.
Well then maybe he should get you off first, before he cums... I definitely would not be going 9 or 10 MONTHS without an orgasm... No way... Unless I am a "fucktoy", which I am not into that... He can take some time to pleasure you, before he gets his... 10 months? He owes you.
im confused and obviosuly so is your man, when a guy asks if you "did you cum?" he's asking if you had an orgasm or not, if you say yes, then he thinks his job is done. i don't think its a simple matter of him being selfish, i think theres a communication problem between you and your not helping by not telling him.
My man and I are all about the foreplay and that is the most important part of it to us. Or at least that is how I feel and that is how he tells me he feels. But if he is lying he is doing a good job of it because we mess around for hours before having actual sex.
I was thinking the same thing. Are you differentiating between cumming and orgasm? Is this a clitoral vs. vaginal thing? I'm confused, please explain.
im confused and obviosuly so is your man, when a guy asks if you "did you cum?" he's asking if you had an orgasm or not, if you say yes, then he thinks his job is done. i don't think its a simple matter of him being selfish, i think theres a communication problem between you and your not helping by not telling him.[ well yea that is probly true. with me I think of cumming as just getting "wet" and most likely he thinks of it as having an orgasm so yea your right. but I have told him the difference between cumming and having an orgasm. AMybe I should just start answering his question " did you cum?" with yes i did but I did not orgasm. that would probly work right?
hmmm, your meaning for cumming is a bit unconventional. For most people (well, everybody i know), cumming=orgasm. Even though you've told him that they're not the same for you, it sounds like he still thinks they are. Either that, or he's inconsiderate. Either way, its a problem that you should address if you want to be happy. I'd suggest you start answering him when he asks with, "no I did not cum". That should be clear to him.
I agree, just say: "I'm not finished, next time, could we perhaps work on that? I love you, goodnight" and I think he'll get the message... or you could whip out a vibrator... that will send the message and get you off. Two birds with one stone!
That is probably the source of the confusion... For me, cumming = ejaculation, orgasm = any other type of orgasm - clitoral or just not a very strong g-spot orgasm. If my bf has to ask if I came, it's obvious I didn't! Make sure he is clear that when you say "yes I came", that does not translate directly to "yes I orgasmed" or "yes I'm satisfied" or whatever. You may have explained this before, but he obviously isn't getting it, so you need to remind him. Hmmm... Yes, I enjoy the process of getting there, but your question seems not to be directed toward multi-orgasmic women. If it takes him an hour to get me there, he is seriously doing something wrong & will probably irritate me (as in cause pain, not just annoy me) if he spends that long trying without getting me there!
