I figured that to get an accurate and honest answer, I need to spill it all out. I'm married with a 3 year old daughter. Most times I prefer to be alone although I do not have any trouble mingling if I need to. I have 2 jobs (both done at home). My husband is only home during the weekends and I still live with my siblings. The particular dream that freaks me out involves my best male buddy. We were very close when we were younger (pre-teens) but we've grown apart. When we were in high school, I had a crush on him which was set aside as I had a boyfriend then (my husband). The last time I saw him, all was well. Although we never got back the same kind of easy companionship that we had before. During the past few months, I've dreamt of him several times. The Usual scenario is that we're just hanging out together. Last night, I dreamt of him again, we were hanging out with our other friends. When one of them blurted of how I feel. He then responded that it's OK because he's always felt the same way about me. All of a sudden we're not young anymore. I know I'm married so I ran off. But he chased me till I'm trapped. Then I gave in. I can't shake off the guilty feelings that I have because of this. What made me feel worse is when I remembered that I was happy in my dreams. I remember seeing a friend of my husband asking why I'm with another and I just ignored him.
Dreams can really fuck with your sense of reality and identity, so I want to caution you to not take them too seriously, if there isn't much meaning to. You haven't given me much background in your actual relationship, so I am curious to know what is making you freak out so much. Is it just that they are you currently unsatisfied or struggling in your relationship?
Seriously lacking in some areas. I've already thought of this. But I don't want to focus on it. **Sigh** I guess I'm not really being honest. but I've already gone out of my shell by posting my dreams here. And I don't think I can expose anymore of what's private to me.
Well, if you haven't connected this site to your real name (including an e-mail address connected to your real name); you are posting pretty anonymously. (Who would trace your IP?) Otherwise, if someone was really looking into you, they might possibly be able to find this. If you want to contact me privately to discuss this, I could be willing to give you my old e-mail. It's an intriguing scenario, and I have some personal experience. If it's not about being anonymous, but just about being shy; I can't help you out there =P But with only real general information, only real general advice can be given.
I think plenty of people will have had similar dreams that freaked them out. I know I've had some, all about the same person who I had 'connections' with in the past, while in a relationship. Yes they freaked me out, and over the next couple of days I felt a bit....'odd'. But it soon worn off, because I thought and realised that in real life it wasn't what I wanted. The question is, outside of dreams in reality, do you wish "dreams could come true"?! If so you need to think what's missing from your life now. If not, ignore the dream!
