Right so I'm a girl, and I want to have anal sex, but I've tried it before which was very painful and uncomfortable, is it easier to receive when wearing a condom, and what is the most helpful hint and tips for anal to be easier and less painful
Have your guy take his time playing with your ass with a finger and lube until your ass totally relaxes. As the muscles relax they will lossen up. May also have to play with a buttplug or anal toy for a while to get your ass used to being stretched. Just take things slow and easy.
in addition to what WILD& CRAZY GUY wrote, i advice u this points: 1-do it with tender and patient man, the best is man you love & trust!! and better if he is experienced in anal, or at least he is loving and patient!! its very important he listens all time to you and be veryyy veryy slowww at begin and all time work his way according to ur feelings and ur rythm! tell him he MUST DO IT IN YOUR SPEED& UR RHYTHM ..not on his ! 2- use MUCH muchhh lube !! 3- i dont advice doggy position as begin cuz u cant really relax ur muscles while u dont see him what he is doing "behind u there " ! better in my opinion as begin the missionary position with cushion under ur hips .. and ur knees back to your breasts..this relax ur ass muscles better, and also keep eyes contact and better communication.. 4- let him enter u veryyy slowwww at begin..then can be gradually faster and deeper but never so fast and deep that it bothers you! when u feel pain it means ur body tells you: DONT DO IT ITS BAD FOR ME!!
I'm blessed with a facility for anal sex (though cursed when it comes to vaginal!) so it's probably been easier for me than for you but time and relaxation is what you need. Problem is it's really not going to be possible to find that in the middle of a hot and sweaty sex session so if you really want to try anal sex (and you should, it's incredible!) the best bet is to practice by yourself, get yourself a buttplug, or even better a small one and a bigger one and just get used to the idea of something going into and staying in your ass. A lot of the pain and discomfort is to do with doing the opposite of what your ass is supposed to be doing when it's being penetrated. Until you get used to it, it might feel strange to "push" when something is going in but that's exactly how you open up. Once you teach yourself to push and bear down and get into a relaxed frame of mind penetration is a lot easier
My wife also has a good anal facility . Her ass can just take it and she loves it. One thing we do is that I dont slide in and out that far or "pound". Instead, I get in all the way, really deep but then I do smaller movements. Works best for her and Im AOK with it too. :2thumbsup: Its tighter around the actual opening but once you're in theres a little more room and this makes it easier for her, me thinks. :2thumbsup:
As someone who got into anal over over the last year - that's receiving, not giving (my wife got me into it!) - plenty of time and lube relaxing and letting her enjoy the senations of rimming her anus. I always like to douche first so that i am totally clean. A but plug maybe but I think your finngers, first one, then two and maybe three and she must be in a relaxed position - a prefer lying on my front, half on my side with one leg half bent, that way you are very relaxed and the anus is not stretched at all. But we're all different and what is best for one........ some guys have upward bending cocks or vice versa, you might need to consider things like that. Go very slow on pentration and just a fraction at a time - of course there will be pain at first but it will subside - heaps of lube and very slow and gentle. Simon:sunny:
There are a few basic pointers: First of all, you can never use too much lube. Secondly, relax & use a comfortable position. Contrary to what most porn videos put acrossw, Doggy is not the best - It can make penetration awkward & often painful. Personally I find Missionary or Spoons to be best. Get your partner to get you prepared during foreplay firstly by inserting 1 finger then, once you become accustomed to that, a second, and maybe even a third. This will make it easier to eventually accept the penetration of his penis. Finally, needless to say, take it slow & make sure he knows to follow your leads.
The answer is quite simple. Enjoying anal sex requires intense physical and mental preparation. Lube alone does not work if the recipient does not have the intense desire to get sodomized. The key is in the mind. Trust me on this one, guys. I've turned many virgins into anal whores through the years.
I have to (hate saying it) agree with backdoor too You can ave all the lube in the world but if the one receiving isn't in the right frame of mind, they will be tense and the muscles contracting will make it harder.
I've been doing my butt with dildos for years. When I started out even the smallest sex toys hurt. But I gradually stretched my anus over time so that now I can do myself with large dildos with no pain. If you really want to have anal sex without pain, it's 100% doable.
I would say get some beginner anal toys, some good thick lube, also you should keep your nails trimmed. Also make sure you poop before you play with your ass, look into a enema/douche. Also do some research on it too. There is a lot of guides and helpful sites to help you with your anal adventures. Need anything else PM me
anal sex isnt so hard if u relax and get some prep, fingers, toys, but make sure u are into it and then the guy your with can have alot of fun. easiest way to keep a man lol.
Have your man eat your butt before you guys get started with finger, toys, or sex. A good rim job is the key that unlocks the backdoor. :afro:
