Hey Everyone, I have no one to talk to this about so really just needing some serious advice. its gonna be kind of long heh I am female and I'm 17, turning 18 in January. Basically I haven't liked a guy seriously in about a year, haven't even had sex. I don't really enjoy it unless I feel something for another. Recently Started talking to this guy, lets call him Spiral. He's a really spiritual dude, like myself. I started talking to him because he posted something on fb about a drum circle, it intrigued me. Sense then we had been talking on fb chatting whatever didn't think much of it then, One day he says him and his roommate are kicking out there third roommate due to problems with her, he asks if I would like to room. I'm down, but later find it its going to have to wait till I am 18 (mom won't let me leave sooner) But we meet face to face, also meet the other guy I would be rooming with. The place is great and both these guys are awesome, its been about 2 weeks sense I met these guys. I'm pretty sure I will end up rooming with them. but theres a problem... I've had this intense feeling, attraction I guess? Not saying I'm falling for him or close to loving him or some stupid teenage crush. But I believe we are similar beings, its strange how easy it is for me to talk with him, its usually really hard for me to open up and be comfortable with someone. Whenever I'm physically around him its like I sense his presence intensely, I've never really had this happen in this way before its overwhelming. I have not said anything to him because its stupid to pursue something with someone if you want to room, also if I ever did pursue it I would like it much better if I were to get to know him really well. But another thing is that he's 26, please don't judge the age thing right off the bat. I can't tell my mother because she would freak cause of the age, theres also no one I feel comfortable in telling this or I think would give me good advice, as most of my friends are guys. I'm just basically concerned with how overwhelming It is now.. I'm not sure if it will die down or not. Plus I haven't felt like this in so long I don't know what to do with myself, for those of you spiritual folk I'm wondering if its a possibility its my twin flame? Oh I'm also going up to North Carolina Asheville with him and 4 other people for the 11.11.11 star seed gathering, if anyones going let me know! ^^
Date him first. After you're legal, 16 in NC, you can date who you want and 17-26 isn't really that big an age difference. Let's see: 26, he's about the age where he may be thinking about marriage...hope you're ready for that. Take some BC on your trip. You're gonna need it.
I think the only real problem u have here is the "moving in" thing. If u do move in and end up in a relationship with the guy, the promiscuity will definitely be a problem since u'll be in the early stage of a relationship. If u do move in with him and things dont turn out well between u two (if he rejects u, if u dont get along, if u go out and then break up, etc), then it will suck that u're living in the same house! So, just don't move in with the guy (whats the rush anyway?), and see how things go between u two just like u would with any guy.
Why are you thinking of moving out? I'm assuming you're living at home now, why the rush to leave? Are you still in school or did you drop out? I would think it would make more sense to finish high school and then move out, so then you'd only have to worry about a job, instead of school and a job (unless you're planning on college). Do you currently have a job? Spiritually, you may be meant for each other, or you may not. It depends on how he feels. Unrequited love is the story of my life, up until I met my fiance, and during those other times I could have sworn to anyone that me and whoever were meant to be together, but obviously I was wrong. Then again, when I first met my fiance, I knew he was different, because I felt absolutely comfortable and safe around him from the first time we met, which is unusual because I'm normally pretty anxious. Still, figure out what he wants before you move in. I unexpectedly ended up with a male roommate in college, and I developed a weird thing for him. He wasn't my type at all, and I was aware of that, but I blame it on the pheromones from living in close proximity to him. I was also lonely, and he was nice to me in the beginning, but after a few months we sort of grew apart, and soon he started seeing this other girl and bringing her home and shit, and even though I knew he wasn't for me, I couldn't shake the damn pheromones, and I would get insanely jealous anyway, but of course I couldn't say anything because we weren't together. But the feelings wouldn't go away, and it was an awkward hell for about 6 months until I moved out and got over it. Point is, when you live with someone, you're probably gonna bond with them more than you'd expect to, and if he ends up being a whore like my old roommate, expect to have some god-awful emotions controlling your life.
I don't want to date him first. want to be friends with him awhile. Honestly don't see him as the type to want to be married, which is fine by me cause I'm not either lol.
If I move in with him I would not try to pursue anything, I know better than that. it would have to wait till I moved out, don't plan on staying there forever. More or less want the experience of living with roommates before I move on to bigger and better things. If I do move in its going to be in about 2 to 3 month anyway, so nothing is set in stone I'll know by then if I can suppress it or not.
I dropped out a long time ago from personal issues, my initial goal is to live out in nature with a tribe/ village and be one with the land. if I was having issues like that I would tell him talk about it then leave if that was the only option, but its hard for things to upset me learning to live in the present.
