slept with a guy

Oh Dear God,

Please Polka, dont listen to the other chics.

Safe yourself for the right guy, thats bullshit, just about everyones first time is a clumsy awkward mess, you are too nervous to concentrate properly. Likely the ones telling you that had a first time that didnt go well, but will give that advice to make themselves feel better about their experiences. But by doing so will give you an inferiority complex by implying you were wrong for not being able to wait.

Save yourself for the right guy? Some safe average guy thats going to be easily whippable but still have no clue what he's doing in the bedroom??? Thats crap advice

Save yourself for the right guy, also bad advice if you wait too long, the girls that leave that till mid 20s end up neurotic as hell, with no idea how to lead a guy on properly, then later on bitchy at the world cos they missed that part of their youth - mainly cos they had a whole bunch of girls around them telling them to wait for the right guy

You slept with this guy after four dates, which likely means he was something of a hottie, had some game, good on you, get yours.

A lot of guys can be jerks? Please dont take the attitude that every one you get close to has to fall madly in love with you, I know its about nerves, something to gossip about to your friends, but from the outside, to the guys, it comes off looking incredibly vain "He's only after one thing cos I'm so hot and all" or incredibly dense "He's just wants my body, he should get equally as excited by all the talking and nagging and mood swings"

And as I said before, once he learned it was your first time would have run a mile, need to know why? Go take another guys virginity and watch him turn into a puppy dog. Its not about you, everyone is like that the first time, first time they have to deal with all those feelings

Dont take others comments on stuff like this on face value, most of the time they are giving you advice really to make themselves feel better about their 'mistakes'. Guys do it as well as girls, but girls are a lot better at the passive aggressive stuff - making it sound like its nice but they are really trying to be mean and mess with your head.

That is, dont let the other bitches try and convince you that there is something wrong with you for doing it this way. Your experience, soooo normal, EVERYONE wishes first time had gone better

Leave safe and dependable for at least a couple years till you are thinking about marriage and kids and are ready to turn into your mum, in the mean time get lost of hot jiggy jig in

And remember the Goldilocks rule: Porridge too cold, save for marriage. Porridge too too hot, he probably has a boyfriend Porridge just right, oynga oynga oynga oynga

 

fuck love give me fire

 

Sooo...

You can choose not to listen to the women....

But I've been there before and been used by a guy I thought was interested.

And I know the last thing any guy wants is to be bothered by texts/calls all day.

Might wanna just assume its a loss and call it a day.

 

I didn't say save yourself for someone right.

I said something more than 4 dates.

 

i think it was the bold font that threw me off.

 

4 Dates + Sex? Did you 'enjoy the moment?
If so retain the memory and await further encounters without thought, that way, a further meeting it will be 'nice', and without it will be ... someone else

 

You have to decide if casual sex is your thing or not. If it is, you might as well have him on the first date if he looks good. If he makes you feel so good you cry, you might want to go out with him more often. If he's crap in bed, don't waste any more time with him.

If casual sex isn't your thing, wait to have sex until after you are married.

 

PolkaDots - I think out of all the input you've received in this thread, that perhaps Humperdink (the one right above mine, here) has given you the wisest advice yet.
Somehow, you don't strike me as one who is after "casual sex", but Humperdink is right. I also think you should not text this guy anymore - if he is interested in you, and it's meant to be, he has your number and will contact you. However, do not get caught up in thoughts of regret - it's over and done with, and you cannot take the evening back. Try and look for the learning and know this: you will know when you find the right guy for you - trust me, you will know him when you find him. When I finally found the right man for me, I was completely smitten from the moment we met. And, I could tell he was quite fond of me right away too. Just put the experience behind you; and understand that this guy was not the right one for you - simply because he didn't appreciate your position. You deserve better, PolkaDots - and you will find him; love will come to you.

 

I saw him again, then he admitted he only wants to be friends. He said we can still hang out, and I still want to keep talking to him but I want more than that.