Hey all, need some views on a girl l've been trying to get to know. This girl contacted me first threw a dating site, l read her profile she said she was looking for friends and if there was a connection that would be good too! she sounded normal and nice so l replyed back to her. Then the back and fourth emails started, we were getting to know each other over a couple of weeks. Then she asked me if l would like to meet for a drink, l said that would be nice and gave her my cell #. She texted me the next day, and really heavley texted me for the first few weeks. We finally got together for a drink and before l got there she asked if it was ok if a few of her friends came also. I said sure that was np...which it wasnt! We met and we all talked about different things, everything went good. Gave her a hug goodbye. ON my way home she sent me a text saying it was really great to finally meet me and thought l was cool and interesting. She gave me her home #. I called her the next night and we chatted for an hour, getting to know her more! After our phone call she texted my like 10 min later saying l was a very interesting person....said good night, sleep well. The usual stuff we say! The last couple of weeks she has been short with her text messages for no apparent reason?? I asked her to go out for dinner because l would rather see her and talk to her face to face at some point. She was sick but she said another time definetly but she hasn't been in touch? My question is what do l do? I'm not a person who bugs somebody, l assumed after all her nice messages we were getting to know each other, even if it was in a friendly manner...l was ok with that! Last time l seen her l did ask her if she wanted to go to a hockey game this month, she said yes and l think she put the date in her phone. Sooo my question is since l haven't heard from her in over a week do l not text her to see if she still wants to go to the game with me, which l thought she was excited about going too? Or do l just wait for her to message me and if she doesn't forget about her? Please if someone could help me out with this situation! l've been nothing but nice to this girl, and never said anything to piss her off! Why can't things just be simple?
If you've texted back 'n forth for this long, why not just be upfront and ask her about it? Ask her what her intentions are, and if she wants to continue. Give her till that hockey game to see if she's reliable or consistent with her ish. Good luck either way.
Thanks Kokujin! I'm a pretty confident person, but l hate feeling like all of a sudden l've been dropped...that does bother me a bit! If she doesn't text me by tuesday l will just ask her if she is still interested in going to that game in a few weeks. I guess the way she answers that question will answer all of my questions? lol...l'm one confused girl!
I had a similar situation but we unfortunately didn't get to meet in person. From my experience it is better to be up front and ask. I unfortunately was not upfront and I gave her some space when she started to not respond and next thing I know she has a girlfriend. So if you like her, tell her, and text her about the hockey game or dinner and say what you feel! Good luck to you!
Thanks coolkat233!! l texted her tonight and just asked if she was still interested in going to the game and to let me know when she had some time to get back to me. If l don't hear back from her l will know! But l would like an explanation as to why, even if it is another girl...i would rather her just be honest and tell me. It's a funny thing you don't want to be to pushy but at the same time you have to seem like your interested and available! lol
Well girls....she got back to me! she said she would love to go but she has 3 assignments due for school the same week! she also said she cancelled her birthday party and free hotel room for the night because she needs to get her school work done! This girl works and goes to university....i guess it's better then no reply? lol. I will text her back tomorrow and wish her well and just say if she's ever interested and has some time to let me know.....and yes move on! I feel like she kinda of built me up a a bit! In my opinion if your not available due to the fact you are so busy don't go on a dating online site and make it seem like you are in the first place...just my thoughts. I do understand at the same time though, that's the kinda girl l am Any thoughts anyone! what would you think?
Peoples! Never bottle up your most honest feelings about a building relationship. It will turn into pain!! Think how much better you would have felt had you mentioned that, and she was forced to actually brush up on the topic? I like this. Don't 'hate' her for not being like you (engaging, honest, responsive, etc.), but don't keep chasing her for weeks on end either. She needs to want you again if this is going to work. Otherwise, bless your own personality and move on! :daisy:
I told her today l was going to stop bugging her with texting and let her focus on her studies and work, at the same time l did say when she has some free time to let me know and that l can always make time for a new friend. Well she responded with about 10 texts saying l was silly and l am not bugging her at all! she has just been really busy and stressed with ft school and work! My conclusion here is to think of her as a new friend and be a good new friend. I'm glad she was honest and let me know she is just a busy girl at times. Honesty is always the best thing, l'm glad l let her now how l was feeling too! thanks for all your comments, and if anyone has anymore on this l will gladly read them!
unk:.. I'm glad she not ignoring you and was just busy. I guess it's never good to rush at things and always start as friends first if possible.
yeah l didn't think she was that kinda of person! but l'm definetly going to just be friendly to her and if we ever end up going out again fine and if not i won't hold my breath! Your right dreamsdocometrue you have to be friends first, l have always started any relationship that way! After l thanked her for being honest she said she admires honesty, so next time l have something on my mind l will just ask in a nice way...life is crazy at times! lol
