for child spanking parents

too simplistic. i don't agree.

 

It's ok to give the ocasional swat if the child deserves it. One thing i dont like though is these people who make there kids out to be better than everybody elses. All children are created equall in gods eyes. If your kids pick up on the fact that there parents are teaching them that they are better than other children, then they will go to school and be little brats thinking that they are better than everybody else, and then most of the other kids wont want nothing to do with them. They will walk around with a stuck up attitude. Its ok to give children some pride but make sure that you are not giving off a signal to them that they are better than everybody else. that wont fly with people. Children need to be taught that everybody is special and that everybody was created equall.

 

it's a good parent's job to think their child is more fabulous than everyone else's. they'll have more than enough people trying to put them "in their place." their parents are their refuge.

 

Discipline=Love
It teaches the child that you love them and that you care enough about their well being. If you have a child that responds to no spanking and can follow the rules with your other disciplining actions than I think that is terrific. Most parents do not have such a wonderful response. I'll speak for myself. Since we have used spanking as our last resort it normally stops the behavior at hand.

I do not agree with abusing the chilld. There is a VERY large difference. If the parent is out of control than the parent needs a time out. The parent must be in control.

You are entitled to your opinion. That is your Right. However when you tell me your disappointed with how other parents discipline, I take that to heart. I have a very nice family. My children are very good boys. Our way is working for us.

 

damn straight, peanuts.

 

So, are you one of those parents that is more like a friend instead of a parent? Do you or are you going to let your kids call you by your first name?



~namaste~

 

i think it really comes down to the disposition of the child, to be honest. i know kids who almost never require discinplining, and others who need someone on them 24/7. i was the low key kid, my little sister was the high maintenance kid. my daughter is low maintenance, i'm grateful. but she does require a little something extra from time to time.

 

all i know is if i ever got hit i would leave.
even it it was just a little hit/swat.
running away is a good wat to "disipline" a parent.

if i had a kid (which i never will) i would want us to be friends/equals.
no one is better than anyone else. in friendship there is no power strugles or hitting.
there may be disagreements but there is teaching and understanding and respect.

 

bullshit. every time i see the parental buddy, the poor kid ends up in jail. fuck that shit. kids need someone to look up to and respect. without that, no one will be worthy of thier respect.

 

NEWSFLASH:


There is a difference between abuse and discipline. There is nothing wrong with spanking as long as it is done in moderation.

 

I can answer the second half of the question.....My son hit me a few hours ago. He was being physically removed from the computer room where he was bugging his brother. (who was having his computer time)
He flipped out and decided to punch me. (He's 5, almost 6)

I can tell you what I did. I put him in his room. I did not hit him back, that would defeat the purpose, although he has been spanked before.

 

One thing my mother always taught us kids is that we were no better than anybody else and that we were no worse, we were equall. it's ok to lift up your kids to the proper degree but a parent can overdue it to and spoil the child with such things. my kids would be taught to treat and think of others as equalls. No offence intended I do respect your opinion on the matter, just my thought. You know i like you KC.:sunglasse

 

Ah, I have the solution to this, buy another computer

 

well, it's not like i disagree, but i come from a household where my dad wouldn't ever even once tell me he was proud of me, and would always find examples of kids that were better than we were. fuck that shit, that's abuse. when i see parents that are just in love with their children, tell their children that they're special and wonderful, i'm much happier. people who feel good about themselves (and i don't mean narcissists), but people with a healthy degree of self-respect and self-love not only succeed in life, but are more willing to help others succeed as well.

 

Or, don't let your five-year-old use the computer.

 

or teach them to share. isn't that supposed to be a good thing?

 

Sure, you need to let your kids know they're loved. But you shouldn't tell them they're the most perfect human beings on the planet. If they thing they're perfect, they aren't going to try to improve.

A parent should be a child's biggest fan, but also their loudest critic. Don't be afraid to tell your child when they are wrong. But also tell them what they need to do to be right.

There's nothing wrong with honesty.

 

hence the swats....see, eliot, we're on the same page.

 

Sure, but I think reading a book at 5-years-old > reading on the computer at 5-years-old.

And yeah, sharing is good. But that doesn't mean let your child use anything you use.

I cannot stand parents who let their young children have free-range.

 

(To be honest, I skimmed your post...)