for child spanking parents

to quote DL Hughley:

in order to call the police, you gotta make it to the phone

 

i was spanked and i turned out alright. i was hit hard too, not little normal slaps. sometimes, i was hit with a weight lifting belt a few times...was punched once. i did some really fucked up shit to get those punishments.

i would never ever thought about hitting my parents back. i'm more scared of my mom than my father when it comes back to retaliation. if i had hit my father when i was younger, i'd probably would have been knocked out. thats just the way it was.

as of right now, i do not know what will happen or what i will do when i do have kids. i'm not going to speculate on that...

 

I will never have children as there are too many in the world, so this won't be an issue for me. But my parents spanked me and I never hit them back and I am glad they spanked me as it trained me to not be an annoying brat. Although some people may disagree and say that I still am an annoying brat...

 

The first person that stops me in K-mart and yells at me for spanking my kids, will probably get one of their own. I think spanking is perfectly fine as long as it's not excessive or bruising etc.

If my kid ever hit me back, (s)he would probably not leave the house or have any priviledges for a long, long time.

 

Thank you. That's what I'm talking about. Getting beat down with studded belts, and 2x4 w/ holes drilled in them. I once got beat soo bad I had a bruise that was dark purple, 6 in across, and 8 inches tall on my thigh. You could see veins through it it was so miscolored. A few swats to a childs ass is nothing compared to that, and perfectly ok as far as I'm concerned.

 

My mom was in some coffeshop and this annoying child was running around and screaming and knocking things over and the yuppie parent was singing this ridiculous song about how that wasn't the proper way to behave. As if that was going to stop the little monster.... If she has spanked that kid, it wouldn't have gone on torturing everyone else in the store.

 

Your not annoying to me at all, I am sometimes because i am over hyper. im one of those people alot of times i want to talk to fast and cant sit still. im also the type if i hear the slightest noise outside, people talking, a car door shuts any noise at all, i rush for the window. My mind does 90 mile an hour all the time and i cant seem to keep it s;lowed down no matter how hard i try. Now back on to the subject of spanking.

 

real hippies dont ever hit anyone, especially not a little kid a fraction of their physical size.

i bet ghandi never hit a child.



i have to say that i am VERY disappointed in a lot of the parents in this thread.

 

Not everyone here is a hippie just for the record (although I am).

 

Did he ever have his own? And even if he didn't, I bet he was "spanked" to say the least while being raised.

There are ways to spank a child w/o "beating" them. 3-4 swats to a childs behind to get an immediate point across should not be such a big deal. I think a lot of the people who are against spanking, were beat severely as children and have a large misconception of what most of us, atleast myself, mean by spanking.

 

violence NEVER teaches love



there are better ways to teach children.... http://hipforums.com/forums/showpost.php?p=8928&postcount=4

 

hmmmm well when i was 16 my dad and my older brother who was 18 were fighting and my dad began to choke him. i walked in grabbed a mic stand and slamed it over my dads head and yelled get the fuck off him. my dad turned around said your crazy then walked out. never NEVER again did he lay a finger on us.

 

i got swats. i swat my baby's hand when she grabs at something she shouldn't, time is of the essence, you know. my baby also gets a diaper butt swat from time to time. mostly, though, when she's pitching a fit or getting in trouble, she goes to her room. she can cry in bed all she likes, then get up and come out when she's done. it's so cute, too, because she comes out and says "i'm done." works really well.

 

That's exactly what I'm talking about. I don't agree at all that spanking is a definitive answer for children, but I do believe it's an acceptable form of punishment, to be used in moderation, with other tactics.

That is soooooo cute. When my ex lived w/ me, I watched her 3 yr old a lot. We had a "time out" chair for him, but he loooooooved my giant recliner, so if he was cranky before bed time, we just layed him down in the chair to sleep. Man I miss him.

 

yeah, she's a real sweetie. she's very rarely bratty, and it's always easy to get people to watch her, but i rarely have a sitter. i figure if i'm going somewhere, my baby can go with me. only if it's totally inappropriate to have a baby there.
the way i figure it, a child's punishment is more effective if it somewhat hurts their feelings, not their body. they'll remember it better. you don't wanna destroy their confidence, but as my family can attest, after a while, getting hit means nothing.

 

My children draw pictures of rainbows and smiling faces, and make me birthday cards even when my birthday is six months away. We snuggle and cuddle together on the couch to watch TV, and when they spend the night away with their grandparents they call me to tell me how much they miss me. We hug alot, and they tell me I'm the best mama in the world. My children KNOW they are loved, even when they do recieve the occasional swat across the butt.

If you ask them WHY they've gotten spanked, they won't tell you it's because I'm mean or that I don't love them, they'll honestly tell you its because they were doing something that they've been told several times not to do.

You are welcome to have any opinion on the matter that you like, but that doesn't necessarily make it right, or the only way to do things. My children are better behaved and respectful and loving than any other kids I know. And I'm not saying that just because I'm their mother, but because it's the truth. I've got kids that I babysit for that have more respect for me than they're own mothers because they know I mean business, and they still love to come over here. I don't spank for every little thing...I use it as a LAST RESORT, when they've been told numerous times before not to do something, and even punished for it before with time out or extra chores, but continue to do it anyway.

Either way, I'm not that concerned with what other people think. I know they love me, and they know I adore them, and they are going to grow up to be wonderful, caring, thoughtful adults. If that calls for the occasional spanking, then so be it. They've not been traumatized so far by it, and I don't think they will be.

 

yeah, i don't know where people get this ridiculous idea that the occaisional swat makes your kid think you don't love them. it means they've crossed the line. and they know it. my daughter adores me and my husband, and we constantly cuddle. whatever i'm doing, wherever i'm going, my daughter is cheerfully by my side. she gives hugs and kisses, cuddles, chats, and takes care of her babies with so much love that she makes me look like a freaking genius and saint. i'd rather see a mom swat her child's hand or butt than scream at them or shun them. i'd also rather see a mom punish her child appropriately and effectively than let their children run roughshod over them, it does their child no favors to grow into the sort of child or adult that other people don't wanna be around.

 

I am spending all of my time with our kids. The only time when I am not with my family is either when I am at work, the gym, or in school. When they get out of hand, it is delt with then and now. A few minutes later, things are back to normal...............



~namaste~

 

Do you have children? Do they behave, listen to you when you speak, not hit each other, do as their told? Are you with them ALL the time? Do you work?

The ages of Ghandi are over. I don't remember seeing Ghandi raising a child.

Children who are disciplined have a lot better chance at making it in this world than a child who is not. That's my opinion.

 

discipline=teach

discipline does not mean spank

yes i am a mother. i am a teacher.

violence teaches fear
love teaches respect.

if you want to live in a peaceful world, then you must start with yourself. ghandi said be the change you wish to see in the world. if we are violent even in our homes, then we will always live in a world filled with violence. if we teach peace to our children, then our world will be a peaceful world. it's really as simple as that.