slept with a guy

Damn if it wasn't a real date, and he just invited you just to have sex, thats mess up

 

why?

it's not like the booty call is a new phenomenon.

 

This is why you should never take advice about guys from chics.

If he got what he wanted and it was good, he'd want more wouldnt he? Or maybe the opposite is true, he actually thought thats all you wanted, but that cant be right cos all men are pigs, all women are victims, yada yada. Even though on those dates you spent way too much time trying to draw attention to your boobs or fiddling with your hair or adjusting the skirt that kept riding up cos it was way too short

Or you didnt even realise but he ended up paying for everything, even though you might have been looking for something long term, a partnership, you know a 'partnership' where he ends up paying for everything. But its ok, he gets compensated with the sheer honour of getting between your legs, and even then he has to do most of the work. And thats such an honour cos you know, you are the only girl in existance.

And if he's interested, you should wait for him to start things up every time??? Cos that will really make him feel like you are interested

Seriously, it doesnt have to mean anything other than you two just didnt click

 

lol I agree on that...from the OP other post, it seem like she really liked him. So thats why I said it was mess up

 

yeah, but we don't know if she ever let him know that. for all we know based on the thread, he invited her over to cook her dinner or something, and she jumped into bed with him and then disappeared for a week.

 

It's probably in your best interest to move on. Sorry polka dots.

 

I wish I didn't sleep with him too soon He was my first as well and he was even skeptical about it.

 

Dont you kind of think that was the kind of information that should have been relayed in you first post? i.e the most important part.

I wouldnt stress about it too much then, he probably did think you wanted to get it over and done with. And as your first you are going to get too clingy in the wrong way. Definately nothing there to get self conscious about

 

playa's got game

 

maybe you were really bad at it.

 

Should always save your first for someone more special than 4 dates... No offense. :/

 

that's true for some people, but not necessarily for everyone. mine was a one-night-stand with a complete stranger, and i have absolutely no problem with that.

 

True. Nothing is absolute. Judging from her posts, though, she wanted something more significant.

 

I really wasn't sure what I wanted but I do regret it now since he seems to be losing interest in me.

 

your an ass for saying that(just like your avatar picture)

Maybe that was his plan all along, to have sex with you, nothing more.

 

That in itself was kind of rude.

It's terrible to always assume the worst of people. But always have a healthy skepticism.

 

1) you need to learn to take a joke.

2) i was mostly joking, but seriously virgins aren't good at sex and if she didn't tell him that she was a virgin it might have freaked him out, either that she was obviously a virgin who jumped into bed with a near stranger then started potentially acting clingy (we really don't know how many texts she sent him or what they said), or that she was far from a virgin and still really bad at sex for some reason.

3) you're. you are. my an ass for saying that makes no sense.

 

Hey,
Give it some more time but keep in mind a lot of guys are jerks, plain and simple.

Please don't let it get to you, I don't know what your beliefs are but a lot of girls have poor first experiences with guys. My girlfriend is one but I don't think saving yourself for a certain person makes it any different. I don't ever mind if my girlfriends have slept with people before me because in the end they only gained more experience along the way, learned what they want, and become more open about their sexual wants and experiences. This enables couples to enjoy a much better sex life because you are more open to each others ideas and have the confidence to have fun with it.

So please don't let it get to you, these are all experiences and once you find the right person for you, they will likely appreciate it.

 

Thank you. We're still texting but he's not really as eager as he used to be. I used to want to save myself for the right person and the right time. But I guess I just got it over with.. I should have told him before we got into bed... maybe he would have been more prepared for it and so would I. I noticed he had been trying to bed me before...

 

It wasn't to sound that way...I was being honest , I honeslty feel bad for her tho

I took it as a joke also...didn't know u was going to explain all of this^^..I have a sense of humor also