for child spanking parents

cops here are a bitch. yes.

 

violence teaches violence.

 

I dunno, I am fairly non violent but I aint gonna ever intentionally take a beating. I was spanked as a child. I dont even have bad feelings for it. I remember them all and I had done some fucked up stuff when dad doled em out. I was only ever grounded for stupid shit I usually didnt even do ( like my homework)

 

that was confusing beyond words.

 

A while ago...before I was juicy_redgirl, you didn't like me.

 

i didnt? well maybe you weren't clique enough for me. when did i not like you?

 

because then they'll never be able to walk in a prodominately coloured neighbourhood without the risk of getting shot

 

It was long ago...on the old forums I believe.

 

I personally believe that they raise a child who will also use spanking. So if you hit your child I think you have to be prepared that someday the balance of power will shift and you could be hit yourself.

Too many people use spanking for all that a child does. It is not used as discipline it is used as the parent is out of control, more than the child.

No one should be hit, not a child or an adult.

 

If I had hit back, I think that could have gone two ways.....either stopped my dad in his tracks OR I would have been beaten unconscious. I'm not a gambling woman.

 

I am not a big fan of spanking, but somtimes a child can go beyond of his or her limits where someone could get hurd because of their actions. There has only been two times that I had to spank my daughter. She was doing things that could really hurt herself. I told her not to do it, but she kept on "testing me" to see if she could get away with it. So, as much as I did not to, I had to give her a "swat" on her ass. No, I do not beat her, just a slap on the ass. But you know what, she stopped and has never done it again. Yes, ther are other methods to punish your child without spanking them, but saying that, there are times when it is the only thing that you can do to get your point across.

Oh, sorry I steered away from the topic a bit.................
If my daughter hit me back, I believe that she knows that she would have a bigger punishment. Not a bigger spanking, but a longer time being punished (privilages being takin' away) after being spanked.....................



~namaste~

 

I guy i knew down south saw a woman start hitting her kid on the head with a magazine, so he went up grabed a magazine and startes hitting the woman over the head and asked her how she liked it.

 

LOL! That is awesome!



~namaste~

 

I am amused by this "no child should be hit" attitude

well that's all good in theory but I have 4 kids and just 1 of me.......they could take this bitch over and stuff me in a closet. A mutiny no one would discover for weeks

As crazy as the world is, I want my children to fear me. When their little friends come up with some fun sounding dangerous shit to do, I want my child's first thought to be " Hell nah, my momma crazy as shit. I can't do that" because by definition kids don't make the best decisions when left to their own devices.

my children are pretty good so I seriously doubt that they would ever hit me back.
But I'm a black mom, so if a kid did hit me back........I gotta cut them, that's the rule.
If a child 13 or above hit me, I'd fight their little ass like a grown bitch in the street that owed me money

this is a null question anyway, you don't hit big mama - you just don't

 

I gotta agree with miss F. Alot of people here talk about "reasoning" with your child, but you know, no matter how many times you might try talking, taking away priveliges, time out, whatever, sometimes they do stupid stuff just for the sake of doing it. I have 3 kids, and my older 2 fight alot. The other day, Alexis (9) pushed her little brother down in the mud (he's 6) for NO reason whatsoever...and she did it right as the school bus was coming down the street. My poor boy had to get on that bus covered in mud in the freezing cold. (I brought him some clean clothes to school though.) You're damn right I tore her little fanny up for that. And when she got home, she had to do yard work and no TV for the rest of the day, as well as an early bedtime.

Most of the time my kids are very good, I've never had to spank the boy, and my youngest has only needed a few pops here and there when she just absolutely won't behave. Alexis generally knows better, but she has her moments.

If any of you remember what it was like to be a kid, you know that there are times when you'd deliberately so something you knew you were not supposed to be doing. bill cosby said they got "brain damage" and I fully believe it.

You people shouldn't be so quick to jump on the "spanking is violence" bandwagon, because there is a HUGE difference between popping your kid's butt for behaving badly, and beating the fuck out of them because they got a C on their report card.

 

If my child started hitting me back I'd break the lil' fuckers arm. Okay maybe not that far but i'd be throughly pissed.

My children are excellent boys. They are that way because both my husband and I discipline them. Children need discipline and consistency. They need you to help them find boundries.

Whenever we do spank there is always a conversation afterwards as to why what they did was wrong and to help them understand the behavior was unacceptable. My boys normally end up saying they are sorry and the act is not performed again.

I am told I LOVE YOU all the time and my children respect and honor me as their mother, same with their Daddy. Even though their spanked our relationship as a family is strong.

 

Sounds just like how it is over here. You're family and my family think a lot a like............



~namaste~

 

Beat the fuck out of them. They wont do it again.

 

Would it be safe to say you enjoy spending time with your family?

My husband and I are with our boys all the time. We have a great time with them. When they get outa hand action is taken place but we go back to a sane enviroment.

 

The only thing i did when i was a child that most parents dont like is play doctor with my little girl friends or girl cousins. We loved to take our clothes off and explore. I see nothing wrong with that when you are a child. Good way to learn about diferences between boys and girls. I was not spanked much as a child, I have no children so i dont have to spank. The one thing you have to watch today is if you leave the slightest mark anymore you go to jail. The law actually gives the children the uper hand almost.