I've met a man...

I think it all just depends on the guy...Asking a question like this would actually require us meeting him and being able to judge his character...Because the answer to this question could have a multitude of answers...

 

Plus being excited about someone new is not a bad thing...and I don't count it as cheating...I just count it as meeting new people who are of the opposite sex, to whom, might have other traits that your current mate doesn't have...

If you love your husband then do what you feel morally obligated to do...If not...Do what you want to do but if you know it hurts him then leave him and don't drag him through the mud...

It's just how far you wanna take this current feeling...

 

thanks a lot for the support!

 

Ask your husband what he thinks it is..... Would you allow him to do the same thing?

 

Ah Well. if he's just a friend then that's that. Just tell your husband you've met a new friend. This guy you've met though might want something more so If I was you I'd make it clear that you only like him as a friend. I can't see your husband being happy about it though but if it is only friendship you're after with this other guy then there shouldn't be any problem...

 

Leave ur husband you do him no favors staying if he isn't the one u want or if u believe there is some one better out there for u

 

It totally depends on the guy. This is where time and feeling come in it. Only the people involved can work out truly if they want to be together

 

YES unless you tell him everything and why you are meeting this guy, and tell him this guy "is your soulmate" just like you said in your original post, and look at the expression on his face, and now do you tell me if this is cheating or not

Bullshit!!! pure bullshit, you can say this now, but obviously this will lead into something since ya'll "have so much in common"...you are traveling to a different city to meet a guy you just met.

Imagine your husband telling you he found a female that shares the same interest and he's meeting up with her. Now how would you feel?

 

If I was in a relationship well with someone I'd fallen for and really cared about then I'd just trust her. I'd think I had to just get a grip on the worry she might fall for him if you don't then you're gonna ruin the relationsip. I'd sorta see it as interesting test of my character.

 

you describe your marriage as 'another story'. marriage where one person describes their partner like that doesn't sound good to me.

and i'm pretty sure you're not posting this on this forum to ask if you should make another friend or not. you know there is cheating alert there that's why you ask strangers what they think it is.

it comes down to this---if you see this as something to keep secret from your husband, then it's wrong. if not, then not.

 

So you will be okay of the fact that she will be going to another city to see him?....I understand what you are saying about trust but I just think its like a slap in the face because she said that in the OP "he's my soulmate"

 

she's obviously planning on cheating. she just took it back in a later post because she saw the responses to her initial post about her plans to cheat.

 

Well It'd depend on the circumstances. If she had a hobby or followed a sports team and he shared the same interests then I think you've got to trust them and try and be cool about it but yeah. If she actualy irl told me this guy was a soulmate then that's different. Not that any of this shit matters to me...I haven't got anyone to break my heart!

 

Have you mentioned your new "friend" to your husband?

 

He also travels a lot and meets new people. I don't see anything wrong with this...

 

No, I'm not

 

I'm not going anywhere. He's coming to my city

 

No, I'm not planning it. But if you want to think so, it's your right.

 

I don't know, really... Now I just want to meet him and talk and make fun. He will very probably come tonight and we will go out with him and my female friend (who was with me when we met this man).

Maybe he's affraid, maybe he indeed wants serious relationship, I don't know. We didn't talk abt such private things.