I'm normally calm and cool after a breakup and know I will get over anything that hurts in time, but this is just ridiculous. My ex and I have been broken up for around 7 months now and he still is constantly on my mind. We only dated around 6 months and I kinda get over things quickly. I am unsure as if I should try to get this man back or if I should just wait around more. I'm stuck. I'm a fool.
you should start by getting the hell out of that pickle before someone closes the jar... but seriously, is moving on just not an option? find someone else, or more realistically, find something else to do with your time.
As the last postee said: moving on IS AN OPTION. Especially after 7 months.. it's time to find a fresh face or have some you time. There is probably a connection there that you haven't quite let go of yet. There's plenty more out there, I wouldn't try the chase, imho it makes you look stupid. If it was a LONG relationship and was definitely worth the work then maybe trying to fix the issue would make sense. Sounds to me like you're living in the past, move FORWARD.
I'm living in the now. Always. I'm always meeting new people. I don't want to not be over it. But I'm not. Bullshit.
You may not get over it completely, but you shouldn't dwell on it. Life goes whether or not you want it to... and it's not gonna wait around for you. Plan your future and be happy about the relationship and what it taught you. If something is really bothering you about things with your ex, you can try to ask how he's doing but don't pour your heart out in one conversation. Just let things flow and see what's on his mind.
why did you break up? was this relationship really so good that you can't get over it? I'm more inclined to believe that you have dependent tendencies. maybe get some therapy trying to get this back together is a possibility, but probably a mistake if the relationship broke up for good reasons in the first place and you have bad reasons for not letting go
Sometimes it takes more times than one would normally think, though the depth of emotive feeling that one has in the heart is not that of the calculation of the head Time is (eventually) a healer though as previoisly posts intimates moving on is a must, for yourself, otherwise one will just end up sad .... and alone.
We broke up after tripping on about 3 and a half doses of lsd apiece and he said he was confused about life after that. We didnt talk at first but talk as much as friends would now probably about twice a week. Um and i havent dosed since.
just get on living.what will be will be.all will unfold in the future.an you will end up exactly where you are meant to be.
is he with someone else now? does he want to be with someone else? if you are still talking to him, you might want to ask him for a straight up answer. "I'm confused about life" is pretty vague.
I was in a similar situation with my ex girlfriend... the best thing really for me was when i finally decided to just stop talking to her all together... I found before I was hoping she'd msg me or call and all that... now we just both know its not going to happen, no expectations its just over. Maybe try something like that... not that I dont miss her, but its for the best... plus when she does meet another dude I really dont want to hear about it lol
I do not know how old you are, but 6 months really is not that long. If you are in high school then I suppose it is normal to get hung up on someone after that amount of time. But I kinda agree with Tom1987, it might not actually be the best therapy, but perhaps getting out there and dating would serve many purposes. Occupy your mind a little more, perhaps you would find qualities to become attached to in someone else as well, or realize that this other guy you are hung up on was not amazing, but rather you were attracted to a quality or combination of qualities, of which you would realize that many other people have those qualities as well if you look for them and give them the chance.
Here is a good and sorta funny book on breaking up. A friend of mine was distraught over her recent break up. She was having anxiety attacks, couldn't eat, sleep, etc. Well, she got this book (It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy) and it helped her a bit. It hurts but know that you are strong and able to get through this. “People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that's bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they're afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they're wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It's all in how you carry it. That's what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you're letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.” ~ Jim Morrison Positive vibrations. eace:
I'm 20, in college. I have had my share of dating different people, this one just stuck. I guess I'm getting over it a bit now, but it still isn't fun.
