Borderline Personality problems...

i've noticed lately that i've been having trouble with relationships. as soon as i get it, i want something else. this pattern has been repeating... the relationship will be going amazing but then i back out of it for no reason. and then when i realize i messed it up, i want that person back. it's really stupid but it keeps happening over and over. it's like i can never be satisfied. i can never find a balance.
i haven't been diagnosed yet, but it's very likely that i have borderline personality disorder. i think this could account for the "splitting". But regardless... i just want to know why i'm behaving this way. it's really messing up my relationships with people.

 

Are you going somewhere that you can be diagnosed? I would definitely try to do that. I understand the never finding balance and changing your mind constantly thing. Hell, I could have that disorder. How old are you? It could just be you are learning what you want. You said as soon as you get it you want something else, but then said you back out for no reason. I'd listen to that wanting something else thought. Either way try a therapist? Good luck.

 

I am 18. i wish i could understand my behavior so i could stop this from happening....and thanks so much for your response

 

You're young. When young people most likely have superficial understanding about relationships and it takes some time to develop a real working knowledge of what sustains versus what simply initially attracts.

I don't think that has to do with borderline personality.

 

don't try to self diagnose yourself. you have no idea what you're doing.