Please, I really need some help/advice.

Hi,i'm brand new around here and, honestly, I only really joined to get your help or advice on a problem I ran into last night.

Please don't laugh or ridicule me

Ok, so last night, I met a girl. She wasn't really my type, but i'm a freshman in the first two weeks at University, so I thought "Why the heck not?" It's really not like me to do this sort of thing, but we went up to my room where things started to get a bit hot & heavy. I had had quite a bit to drink, as had she. We both got naked and stared to make out.

One thing I think I should make clear right now is that previous to this, I have had no physical intimacy with a woman before. I was a complete and utter novice.

This is where it starts to get...embarrassing.

I thought I wouldn't be able to contain my erection for my first time, but, for some reason, it just wasn't happening for me. Maybe it was the drink, maybe it was nerves or maybe I just wasn't attracted to her, but the damn thing just wasn't working!

On top of that, she wasn't exactly very well kept "down there." I apologise for going into graphic detail, but she had a lot of pubic hair & there was an unpleasant smell which I found repulsive.

As you can guess, this really didn't help with my problem.

To cut a long, awkward story short, we lay there for about an hour, trying to get in the mood. We then decided to call it a night and I walked her back to where she was staying. I said goodnight, then went back to my room, head in hands embarrassed & ashamed.

The odd thing was, when I got back, I wanted to check if I was still in "working order," which, I was! Without fail! Frustration isn't even close to what I was feeling.

So, now i'm too scared to even try anything with a girl. What if the same problem happens again? I'm afraid people will laugh at me. I know there's nothing wrong with my penis, as I can get erections easily by myself. What is wrong with me!?

I'm not gay, i'm straight and have looked forward to my first time for years & years. My only worry now, is that i've been really put off any sexual experiences to come because of what happened last night.

Unfortunately, as it's my only intimate experience, i've got nothing to compare it to. Will next time be the same as this?

Please, I ask for any help or advice.

Thank you.

 

I would say try it again , with a lady more your type , and a bit more cleaner. Use a rubber , so you dont get a std or make a kid . Dont try it read drunk , for some of us guys , some body parts just dont work as good in that state. desert rat

 

I think it was nerves combined with booze, and then as you said if she wasn't kept up there that would be it as well on top of the other 2

Next time find a girl you like, don't get drunk. And I'm sure you will be ace.

 

everyone's first time is shit.

 

Ain't that the truth!!!

I think I crushed the guy I was with the 1st with what I said lol

 

Beat me to it.

I would try the same girl, but under better conditions. Take a shower together, for one.

Edit: I would also tell her how embarrassed I felt, and that I would like to try to do better.

 

i would say find a girl you want to make love to , get to know her first , and all will be ok , lots of freshman think it is cool to drink and have sex with all the women they can , you can be better then them ,

 

freshman girls just want to slut around for their first semester. he can get some practice in while it's readily available, or he can not get laid for another year or so.

either way, that would not make him any better or worse than the rest who "think it's cool" to enjoy themselves and not be pointlessly judgmental.

 

he is talking about his first time , and i hope he want's it to be something better than just a drunking roll in the hay ,, it is because of this that girls want a guy that knows what he is doing

 

you didn't like her, you were drunk and her pussy smelt bad. When you meet someone without these issues then you'll be alright fuckin' them.

 

girls do want a guy that knows what he is doing, so therefore his first time almost has to be a drunken roll in the hay or else it just won't happen, because nobody sober wants to have sex with a virgin.

 

What's bad about a drunken roll in the hay?

And what is the "this" because of which girls want a guy that knows what he's doing?

In any case, the girls are not going to find out wether he knows or not until they try.

 

I would agree with most of what's been said thus far. You had a horribly embarassing experience that will probably make you cringe and blush every time you think about it for the rest of your life. Everyone has moments like that, and the older you get the more of them you'll accumulate. The trick is not allowing it to paralyze you.

Chalk this one up to nerves and whiskey-dick (which is a very real problem... I'm thinking about starting a foundation and selling bracelets), shrug it off, and jump back on that horse, or bike, or whatever cliche works for you.

~Ian

 

I would say try it again hon. It sounds to me like the girl just wasn't your type. The next girl you want to try something may be more of a turn on to you, in respect to how clean she keeps herself and other intimate things. Don't give up. I think you may have wanted to rush the situation, which may have played a big role in why you couldn't pull anything off, so to speak. Be more choosy with the next girl. And I would say the alcohol prolly played a big role in why nothing went right.

 

yeah i would agree that it was the booze.

 

no sexual attraction there. better luck next time kid.

 

Thanks guy! It really means a lot, honestly.

 

That's your primary reason. You were forcing yourself to be mister freshman-who-gets-laid-wow-im-so-cool. The booze and first time factor were definitely critical as well, but the foundation of why nothing happened was because you were simply not attracted to this girl, doing it for all the wrong reasons. Find a girl that you actually like. Don't sleep with chicks to sleep with chicks. Don't change who you are so that Broseph McJockstrap high fives you. If who you are is the guy who doesn't sleep around, then just be yourself. Just because a girl wants to get laid, and you're a guy, doesn't mean it has to happen.

 

First, I think this happens to every guy at some point. Second, heed some advice of a friend of mine: if you won't eat it, don't fuck it.