Regular sex with ex-gf who is in a relationship?

So my ex-girlfriend and I are having regular sex with each other. This obviously wouldn't be out of the ordinary, but she's been in a relationship with a dude for like 3 months, which was a little less then the amount of time we've been broken up.

We've always had a strong sexual relationship and we both really enjoy each other. But I can't help but feel bad for this other guy. She's obviously acting inappropriately. So what does this say about her? Insecure? Not over me? Simply a slutty girl with no remorse? For me theres not much emotional attachment except that associated with friendship. Its all about the sex for me.

Should I be the moral human and stop this? I don't think I will lol. Is there anyways this could blow up in my face? What do people think, hmmm?

 

There are just some people who shouldn't be in monogomous relationships...

And you can't just say she's acting inappropriately, as if you somehow aren't. If it's all about the sex for you, then it likely won't blow up in your face, unless this other guy happens to be physically stronger than you, and likely to make mincemeat of you if he finds out. lol

 

I'd say she Is acting more inappropriately than you are, as she is effectively cheating while you are still single. It doesn't make you completely innocent though as you clearly know its happening.

I once had sex with this amazing girl I met in college, I didn't realise until after that she was actually in a relationship with a guy. She said the sex with me was the best she ever had but I still felt kinda guilty knowing shed cheated with me.

In your situation I'd say the only thing to stop you would be your morals. I'm not sure what id do to be honest, I love having good, regular sex, but if I found one of the people I do it with was supposed to be in a monogamous relationship I wouldn't be best pleased...

You never know though, maybe she's in an open relationship with her new guy. I can say from experience that its much simpler, even if at first it feels alien...

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Well, you can say it's "less wrong" to get physically intimately involved with someone you know is supposed to be in a monogomous relationship with someone else than it is to actually cheat on your partner. But it's still wrong regardless.

In any event when you bring "morals" into the equation, it really has to work both ways, otherwise, you're just a hypocrite. If your morals wouldn't stop you from getting involved with someone who is already attatched, then you really can't complain if one day you yourself are cheated on.

 

Thank you for the replies.

Oh no I agree I'm acting inappropriate. But comparing what I'm doing to what she's doing is like comparing apples to oranges. She's betraying someones trust, I'm just the person she's doing it with lol.

I don't think I would be too worried about him. He's a stumpy little guy and I'm 6'3 and quite fit. Now if he brings a gun on the other hand haha...

Thats funny, she said the same thing about us, that we have the best sex that she ever had. I think thats the reason why she wants to continue what were doing. I would definitely not be pleased if someone I was having sex with all of a sudden told me she was in a relationship, but I knew she's in one (granted I didn't know it was three months long). She's not in an open relationship.

Very true. I wouldn't necessarily do this with just anybody. Its a bit different with her because we've had a long relationship, and I don't feel particularly guilty because quite honestly I've put up with a lot of shit with her over the years.

 

It's not my place to tell you wether you should stop .... but I can't help wondering why the hell you ask if you don't think you will (lol??).

It could blow up in your face when that dude finds out and decides he's gonna have your balls for breakfast. And as for being 6'3 .... you also need to sleep sometime.

Just keep doing what you're doing .... if you have to ask for advice here it probably means you don't need/want any. Or you could just go ask her boyfriend what he thinks.

 

have you asked her why she's not being faithful to him?

 

I really don't see how this is only her fault. You are still sleeping with her all the while knowing she's in a relationship. And also knowing that, even if it doesn't blow up in your face, it will blow up in hers. If you can be so detached emotionally, you can find someone else to sleep with for fun I think. Either that, or she needs to be honest with her now boyfriend and keep it open. Like Invisible Soul said, monogamous relationships aren't always for everyone. Or not at every stage in life. Maybe she needs to find someone who is accepting of open relationships, and that way she can continue sleeping with you guilt free.

 

I think she needs to dump her bf instead of stringing him along, which is a really shitty thing to do. And when he finds out, if he does, a huge slab of his confidence will be smashed to pieces and will never come back. To be cheated on is just horrible, and it can be devastating to a person who has trusted, only to have it broken.

If you and your ex can't cut it in a relationship, then keep each other as fuckbuddies or something... but deliberately betraying someone else through cowardice is just shitty...

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Yeah, this is pretty much my feeling as well.

 

me too.

 

So are you

It says that you both are cold, uncaring people. In my opinion.

Why is she a slut but you're not a whore?

Which makes it alright? She's an insecure slut, and you're just a guy getting laid?

You've already demonstrated a lack of morals.

Cause you lack morals

You could end up rejected and alone. Or, the guy could find out and kick your ass.