Asking out a female customer-advice please

Hey there,

First let me say my company and my boss have no policy against this, and my boss has actually done it and encourages it.

I have never been tempted in the two years I have worked at my workplace to ask out a customer, but a few days ago a girl around 23 came in with her mom. I instantly took notice, she just caught my eye. Really cute. I found out while I was probing her with sales questions to her that she has a fair bit in common and we have some similar interests, especially in traveling. We have similar university degrees too, well she is done and I have 4 courses left.

I work part time in car sales, I'm nearly done school. During the test drive her mom asked me many questions about my life in-front of her daughter. This was a bit non-typical.

I had her come back for a second visit two days later to drive the car she wanted again. Well similar, just different colour. Surprised me a bit that she came back so quickly, showed up on time, and she still had not shopped any other brand which she said she was going to. She came in with her dad who opted not to come with us on the test drive. A bit unusual. We were alone together. We mostly talked about our lives on the test drive, about our traveling and studying in other countries. I sort of mentioned we should keep in touch regardless of what car she buys because she had many interesting traveling stories like myself, she seemed to respond positively.

I really don't think she has a bf.

Anyways, I want to ask her out but I am worried that I might be crossing the line in her mind. I have her number and e-mail because that is my job to get that information to sell. I feel like I might be misusing this information in her mind. Again, my boss has no issue with this.

GIRLS, if you are in her shoes, what might you think? How would you respond? Should I just call her up and say, what I really wanted when I said "we should keep in touch is: I want to take you out for dinner"? I don't know, I have never been in this situation before.

She really looks deep into my eyes when I talk to her. Other than that, not too many clues.

thanks everyone! Any input is really appreciated.

 

I think(not a girl) you answered your own question. It sounds very reasonable to say "would I be crossing a line if I asked you out?" If she says yes--then "you're sorry". If she says "no" --you're on. Good luck. Scratch that-make your own luck.

 

Input from anyone is appreciated. Thank-you.

 

Some guy wearing a silver Cuban link and one of those shirts that have a bird with it's wings spread and a ribbon with writing on it will take care of her soon enough. Don't bother.

 

i don't think my company has a specific policy against it just because it seems self-evident that that's not appropriate customer/employee conduct.

on the other hand, a male burger king employee asked me out once, and even though i'm not gay i was flattered and it did not affect my standing as a customer there.

 

just do it. if you do and she says no - who cares? you'll prolly never see her again cause you lost a sale too.

bahahaha

but why not for real?

 

Careful though .... you might end up without the girl AND the job.

 

just explain that you want to show her your gearstick..

 

Tell her you want to see what is under the hood,

 

what did she say when you said "we should keep in touch"?

 

She was sort of like "yeah". I can't remember exactly.

 

if she clearly said yes when you said that you should keep in touch, then it's pretty clear that she is consenting to your talking to her. it might have been better if you had asked for her number or email for personal rather than business reasons

in any case, if you are really crazy about this girl, why not contact her?

 

In that case just forget about the whole thing entirely.

 

I'm surprised your boss 'promotes' this behavior. The company is setting themselves up for a lawsuit with an attitude like that. Or at a minimum, a reputation for a place women shouldn't buy a car (meaning less sales and eventually going out of business). If it were me, and I wanted to make money, I would be searching for another dealership.

Anyway, I'd ask her out to something none threatening and see where it goes from there. Maybe a professional seminar in the field you're both interested in.

 

This is Canada, we don't generally sue people.

 

I phoned her up and asked her. I happened to have got tickets to a BOX seat for a local sporting event. She said she had a surprise party for her father tonight and that she had to go and help setup so she had to go. When I asked if she would like to to do something with me another time, she said "possibly".I said I would call her in a few days.








ok seriously...wtf?

"possibly"



"possibly"

wtf?

 

unless she seemed generally enthusiastic about talking to you, "possibly" sounds like a nice way of saying "no"

maybe contact her again, but if it's still "possibly", then give up

 

In retrospect she seemed fairly enthusiastic. She could have just said no to the soccer game and let me down easy, but I don't know her response sounded very genuine and I felt confident she would say "yes" to doing something else.

 

It's when they say "No" that really sucks.

 

Suppose you date, you both like it and date some more.
What happens when the car breaks? What if the warranty doesn't cover what she thinks it does?

About your boss and his recommendation. I don't think its likely that a customer will have grounds for a suit, but an employee might think that the workplace is a hostile place for those in a non-customer relationship.