blood relatives

Do you love your blood family members because of who they are or is it the blood relation that makes you feel obligated to love. Or do you not love your family members at all?

(In this post when I say family I mean the people you are related to, not gangs or friends or homies (my friends are my family but not for the purpose of this thread))

 

You can choose your friends .... you can't choose your family.

 

I love certain members of my family because I have been through a lot with them and trust them deeply. However, I kicked the moochers and the dick head relatives to the curb long ago.

 

I hate my family every single one of them nobody gets along

 

I don't know what love is.

 

I feel I only allow my immediate family to get away with stuff. I don't really have an emotional connection to the extended family so when they fuck up I just don't talk to them. When I no longer rely on my parents financialy I think they will be in the same boat as the others. Life is too short to deal with people who make u unhappy

 

That's kind of where I'm at. My son is the exception. I love him so much. But the rest of my family makes me unhappy and they generally have the wrong idea about things. I get tripped up on my mom though. I love her and she would do a lot for me, but she is so negative, confused, unhappy, and close-minded. I don't depend on my family financially, but I do depend on them for co-signing purposes.

 

i love my immediate family - the rest can go fuck themselves. they had their chance.

 

Haha, I don't think I could've worded that any better, but these are my sentiments. I have a couple of cousins who I like and an aunt and uncle that live far away but are always super sweet and friendly when they visit, and I love my grandmas and immediate family, but the rest of my family just suuuuucks. They're terrible people and have done some pretty wicked shit, but are so high on their self-righteous pedestals that they can't see past their own noses. I feel zero obligation to love any of them, I can barely stand them. I also can't stand my cousin's wife or his kids. lol

 

So what kind of wicked stuff has your family done?

 

I have to say that I love all of my family members.

 

I love my family members, just not so much the blood ones


except for son (duh) and Mom. I just wish she would be more open minded.

 

Well, my uncle openly cheated on his wife for years when I was just a little kid. I even knew what he was doing and I was about 4 years old. Then he was fucking a kid I knew's stepmom all throughout high school. My grandmother just passed away a couple of days ago, but the whole time she was in the nursing home, the nurses there said he'd start screaming matches with her and shout at her during his visits alone. But the motherfucker goes to church (and flirts with all the teenage girls) so he's a "godly, wonderful man." FUCK him.

My other aunt and uncle decided when my grandpa (other side of the family) was getting feeble and sick that they should convince my poor naive grandma that she needed to move him 11 hours from his home and his only two grandkids (my brother and I). I never saw him again, he died 6 months to the day that they left, and asked about us every day. During the time of the move, my family got my grandma two kittens to take with her as companions and he let them loose (on purpose) and the neighbor's dog ate one and the other one got trapped up in the underside of the car. She was alright, thank god, they found her at a rest stop. Now they have my grandma convinced she doesn't have right to her own money, they won't allow her to come visit us except once a year, and they never will let her visit when she wants to, it's always whenever is convenient for them. They run her life because they have a lawyer and threaten her if she tries to take charge of anything on her own.

So...they could be worse, yeah, but they're no saints and I refuse to treat them as if they were.

 

I love my family members, but not necessarily the ones I'm related to by blood. I mean, I'm super close to one of my blood brothers because we've bonded, but the rest of them blow. My real family, however, I'm related to by not blood but bond. My momma has taken care of me, my sister loves me, my brothers have my back. That's family.

 

tru dat. i love my son and those who have my back. all those blood people who have psychologically tried to fuck me up can fuck the fuck off. we have the ability to choose our bros and fam.

 

Well this is a toughy. Actually remind's me, when my sister was born 18 year's ago I'd held her at the hospital, had the biggest smile on my face, looked up at my mum and dad and went, "amy's a big sister!" No matter what, I've been proud of her since the day I laid eye's on her.

Actually, here's a pic of me holding her. I had it scanned onto my puter



We both doted on my brother when he was born, treated him like our little doll. At 16, he's one of the smartest, brightest and determined people I know.

I have an aunt, uncle, and two cousin's that none of our family are keen on. They keep to themselves, are very reclusive, and content to be that way. It's their choice.

I have many aunt's and uncle's, but there was one that I was particulary fond of who passed away very recently. Out of all of them, I felt a stronger connection with her; she loved Bob Seger, so when she passed, I'd repeat the song 'Old time rock n' roll' for a few day's.

My biological dad's side of the family are very yuppy. I wont get into too much detail but there are too many difference's between his family and mine.

My mum started dating a man when I was about two; he took me in as a daughter and helped raise me, took me to school and went to school carnival's etc. He even taught me how to ride a bike. We've had our differences over time, but at least he's been there. THAT to me is a dad.

 

I don't get along with the majority of my family and the other side of my family, I barely know...

So, I don't love anyone...only those who I'm close to like my mother, brother, and aunt.

 

I don't hate my parents but I strongly dislike them for lying to me as I grew up and for being the biggest hypocrites on the face of the planet. However, I am thankful that they brought my three siblings into the world. They have been my best friends for nearly 21-years of my life and I can trust them with just about anything. I also love my brother's wife and their three beautiful kids who love me for being the best auntie ever.

I love my paternal grandmother too and I miss her a lot.

I STRONGLY dislike everyone else: Cousins, aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces,... There's just so much hate and they dislike me too. I don't know why but eh...

 

If it weren't for my blood family, I'd surely be dead. Family is absolutely everything to me.

 

I think happy love comes from familiarity, trust, and then the basic stuff that makes up friendship, such as having fun together. Family ties can lead to many of these things, but not always. For example one can have siblings they grew up with that are familiar, but were never trustworthy, or nice to them.