This is trippy for me, ill tell you the story. new years after last I took my ex home with me from a party, her boyfriend left her there. We got it on, she left to go make a mends with her bf in the am, I wasnt worried about it at the time just a drunk fuck up on both of out parts. I have loved this girl forever, just in the past 2 weeks I have been seeing her family members, her friends, even one of her frieds who hates me added me to facebook to say sorry for being a bitch and all that, wow. I see my ex working at the superstore I dont talk to her, because last time we talked on email she said we could no longer be friends with me she loved her bf yadia yadia, I said "ok take care" . I see her in the superstore, i smile at her she smiles at me, that is all i go on my way. noooow i get home and she has sent me an email that simply says "hey" Im sooo excited i hope she likes me again I am in love with her as always and I want to keep this girl. I am just so happy and excited about this i had to share it.
Dude, this exact scenerio happened to me once... A couple things, if she cheated on someone with you, she'd cheat on you with someone else. That being said, here's the deal. Right now you're an ace in her back pocket. The second her and her bf get in a big fight, she'll be running to you to tell you all about it, she'll call you "nice" and "a good listener". She also probably wants you to "try" for her. She's probably more than flattered that two dudes are wanting her. She'd take note which one wants her more. If you want her, try. But, if she really loved and cared for you, she'd be straight up about it and wouldn't be so wishy washy. Someone who loves you doesn't dangle it on a string in front of your face, they want to share it with you. I'd say either try harder for her if you really want her, though you probably will get hurt eventually. Or, don't allow yourself to be her backup plan, and sever the ties.
It sounds like there is some good chemistry here, I'm happy for you man. I agree 100% with "once a cheater always a cheater", however, in this case from what I understand her boyfriend at the time dumped her on new years eve and that's when she hooked up with kyle (obviously a drunk rebound fuck as the very next morning she went crawling back to said bf). But, if all this mess can be cleaned up, I think you guys can have something nice
Not even friends with benefits. If you have feelings for a girl, the whole friends with benefits isn't the right thing. That'll just make you have sex whenever she wants to and go off to a different boy. Basically, she'll just use you for sexual acts. Who gets hurt? You do. Because of your feelings for her. It really sucks getting your hopes up for a person that won't see you as anything else but a friend when you're madly in love with them. Your happiness matters more than anything. I hope things work out for you. Best of luck!
next time you see her in the grocery store, find a huge zucchini, and ask her if she likes em big....it'll melt her heart.
I agree that if your feelings are of a serious nature then its all or nothing. Sounds like someone wants to settle down in life, and that's OK.
