Do you do drugs with your significant other ( any ) ? How does it positively and negatively effect your relationship?
I used to do drugs with an ex boyfriend of mine. We smoked pot, did E, and took prescription pills. It was pretty bad and we appeared to be a very vile couple. There wasn't anything positive in our relationship because of what we did. It ended in a good way because I got clean a few months after he dumped me. As for him? A friend of his said he died in an accident. The last thing I knew was that he started doing 'shrooms and hanging out with the bad crowd. My current relationship... my boyfriend smokes (or smoked) pot but it never affected our relationship. I'm toning down my drinking habits to keep our relationship stable since he absolutely hates alcoholics. So there's nothing negative there since we're working things out by talking to one another and our relationship is really loving and just wonderful.
I do drugs. She doesn't, except alcohol. I don't really like alcohol too much, neither does she. It doesn't have any effect on our relationship when we do it together or apart. Marijuana and the other more psychedelic drugs that I partake in, bother her at times, and cause some rift between us, mostly through her own doing. She does have issues with an asshole father that is a total selfish, irresponsible, lazy stoner, and we both agree that many of her problems with drugs could stem from that. It's not a huge problem, and I don't think it will always be a problem, and the amount of problems it causes has varied over time (both good and bad fluctuations). She tried marijuana with me once, and we had an awesome time on it; she was uncontrollably-naughty. Unfortunately, she doesn't remember it and hasn't wanted to try it since =P I've been abstaining from all illicit substances since I've finished school and been seeking employment, so I think that's given her some good faith and should help in the future.
wow my situation is very similar.. All my wife does is drink occasionally(once every month or maybe even two months.) I smoke cigs, weed, and drink(I don't drink as much as I used to, but if i'm drinking, I don't stop until my body does.) She hates when I drink. She actually LIKES when I smoke pot, because its just pot and she knows what's up. cigs she bitches about, but that's whatever. When I used to eat xanaxes, I don't think she knew how bad that can be. She should've kicked my ass because of the xanax, but then again, that might've drove me to eat more.
there are good drugs bad drugs, and sometimes they just wont suit a certain person. Personally, most of the girls ive been with until now have been into the same alternative, partying type lifestyle/music. and i had many awesome nights and weekends with my gal, usually indulging in pure md, good smoke, wine/beer etc, occasional charlie or the 'cold' stuff (moderation! grabs u by the balls that one! but ok done a few times a year, man it makes you horny as hell hehe. if you havent had passionate sweaty sex all weekend on coke or ice, its a fun experience.BUT they are v addictive-many get fucked by it, many dont. i never got ruined by it. ive seen sum friends come close. Now, overall theres no replacement for intimate sex with your lover being sober , ofcourse, and should be the foundation and form the majority of relationship. but if your a hedonist, why not enjoy all life has to experience with a sensible informed mindset. especially in the bedroom;-) in saying this, moderation is the key for the mature minded folks, anything abused will ruin you and your relationships like any addiction. if one partner is trapped by substances in day to day life to self-medicate or their just selfish and a junkie, they need to be dumped, or drugs need to go and rehab sorted. if you're both in a healthy mind state, work life/family etc etc, then the use of substances on occasional erotic escapades wont cause problems. and u cant go wrong if u stik wit the organics too- like bud,shrooms,herbal aphrodisiacs like damiana herb, entheogen family. do your research.
We smoke weed together which i like ,but when it comes to other drugs such a lsd or dmt i think hes annoying. He like trys to tell me shit i already know haha its just annoying.
i read your post and i must say... very well thought out and i agree, however i am drunk and have nothing intellectual to say about it.
op-i have had both kinds of relationships...had several where me and the miss's got into the blow pretty good..it worked fine with the non-psychotic women..........my fave girlfriends where truly the ones that didnt smoke or take drugs because i am greedy by nature and do not love sharing my dope
