So my sister-in-law is my age, and she's always got financial drama. She had two kids with a crackhead. I could say that the first time she gets a pass. She was 16 and stupid. Although when she was 16 they still had birth control, but whatever. Mistakes happen. Also, this guy had already had a child, and left her. But you wanna fuck this dude, who am I to judge? He leaves her (a few times). She sucks off welfare, never stops smoking weed long enough to do anything besides fast food. Then she gets pregnant again. Which would be fine, if she got herself together to take care of her kids. When she needs a baby sitter she'll leave them with practically anyone. If the father is in the picture, she wont work. When he's gone, she stays with his friends, family, whoever will take her and her kids in. Last year we were ALL having financial trouble. I was unable to work for a month after losing a pregnancy and fallopian tube. Things were rocky, but on the mend. she had the balls to call and ask for money from my boyfriend and when he said no, she said well at least you dont have kids to feed. It took a long time for me to be able to talk to her. She called yesterday asking for money for an abortion because she is pregnant again. She gets free birth control. If she doesn't know how to use it she should keep her fucking legs closed. I know everyone has the right to bear as many children as they want. And I know I'm just bitter because I lost two very planned and wanted pregnancies last year. But fuck dude... I have nothing to say to her. Its not that I'm against abortion. She should by all rights get rid of this baby. She can't take care of it. I just hate her so much right now for being so irresponsible.
Reading that reminded me of everyone that lives in a 50 mile radius from me. Those kids didn't ask to be born into this world and think of the morals and family values being put into their heads. No offense, but shame on your sister. They should give her a hysterectomy so she doesn't mentally damage any more human beings on this planet. Shit like this sends me right over the fuckin edge, because I'm sort of in the same boat as you - however, I lost two (unplanned) pregnancies and hated myself every day for the lives that were lost all because of this stupid illness I have. And one of the times, I had to go through extensive therapy since I did have an abortion because it was my life or the unborn child's and I felt so selfish for having done that. And now these women are out there using their reproductive systems as a recreational sport to see how much money they can suck off the government. All of their kids a different ethnicity and all with different last names. It makes me sick. I fear the turn society will take during the next generations. I really do. And I pray to God that I die young so I don't have to deal with it. Sorry...I guess I needed to rant too.
I must say I really like this thread, ladies...and agree wholeheartedly. I would be in the age bracket of grandmothers. I have watched my generation basically be some of the sorriest parents that have ever existed...JMO. We have tried our best to teach our young not to accept responsibility/point your finger at everyone else for your mistakes, and your basic RUN away from "being an adult". Experiment with drugs, prostitutes, show little to no morals ... those seem to be the basic precepts the majority of 20something year olds have been reared to "DO". You can know I don't agree with that shit, and that my own son was certainly raised the opposite of that ^. It is possible to teach and LIVE showing the difference between "right and wrong", to live free but having some boundaries or basic rules. Of course, raising a child "in the way it should go", takes a lot more effort and thought - if taken seriously - than say, if you just let it go wild and live with that grand ole philosphy of anything goes.
^Exactly. It is beyond me why some people just don't understand this. Are they really that dense? Granted, I have had a lot of professional training in early childhood development and the effects parents have on their children, but I remember taking these classes and thinking 'Seriously? Isn't this sort of common knowledge?' Not to mention young people getting married when they have absolutely no idea what marriage is about. They're doing it because they think their kids will be better off with two parents--while this may be true, two parents that argue all the time in front of their kids is worse than having just one parent. What the hell is wrong with people? I remember growing up and all my friends had two parents who loved eachother and had a cake walk compared to some of the kids I see now. Not all of these kids come from broken homes so why are they creating it for their children? What spawned this generation? Where do teens/young adults get these effed up morals? It's beyond me.
man. you chicks rock. I was starting to think I was the only one.. j/k man it just soured my puss when she had the guts to ask us to give her cash from our wedding to help her shit world. I never got to do this shit. I give up whatever I need to in order to further my life's well being. That includes no constant partying, unprotected sex and drugs I cant afford until my rent is paid. This is why I have no friends. And I'm better off that way.
I think this needs to be looked at. For the average person who needs a car or a house, they have to apply for a loan. They must have financial security behind them, must have a job etc. and the reality behind it is most people get knocked back from the banks. Now to have a kid you need nothing. Kids cost more than cars and houses in the long run, so instead of letting every slut get knocked up and then throw money at them, how about letting someone else assess whether or not they're even capable of funding a new child. It's not a house or a car, it's a precious human being. This would also help population control. If people are having illegal children, they're probably scum bags and ought to be shot. That's my two cents.
"ought to be shot". LOLOLOL:smilielol5: This is where you go back to my favorite unpopular "dream" (lol) of making one have tests (mental, physical, the works) before you can parent a child. It's gotten out of hand and too many stupid young girls are have lots of children. I'm sorry, but that is the way I see it.
Ugh I was guunna try and get into this but this thread is terribly wordy, but I'll say this who the hell do you think u are to pass judgment on her so she's made some mistakes why are u such a dick about it. Its easy to be all high and mighty when ur shits not fucked up but one day when it is u should hope a dick like u isn't around being all judgemental
You may be right to say we shouldnt pass judgement when we're not in her shoes, but the fact still remains that it sucks to do everything in your power to better yourself and your childs life including losing friends just to see someone else unchanged by the tremendous responsibility bringing a child into this world creates. (or so it would appear to an outsider). I thing op and myself were more bitching about this.
I had the right to be judgmental when she asked for the money I have for my wedding to get an abortion. and its not like I haven't slept around. I just used birth control so I didn't end up like that. My life's been plenty fucked up. I learn from my mistakes, not make them a cycle of hell. Like I said, I'd give her a pass on the first, maybe even the second, but this is just stupid. How many kids are you gonna have before you learn to be careful? A whole fucking litter? Oh, and if she DOES choose to live her life like that... she needs to quit calling me asking for money for clothes and food and baby sitters. She also calls to try and get sympathy. Nope, sorry. None of that here. The last time my mother in law took the kids so she could job hunt, all she did was party. She deserved a night or two to herself, but she partied the whole fuckin time. And two days after the kids got back she called up to whine about how terrible her life was. I wouldn't judge if she kept the bullshit to herself. I have YEARS of pent up frustration with this chick. There is no helping her. No money or pats on the back do a damn thing. I tried. And now I just say fuck her.
Reminds me of my sister. If you can't even take care of yourself, don't make babies and then assume other people are going to take care of them and stop their whole lives to let you leech off them. To this day I have been unable to get a job or start college because she moved in with us and always needs me to watch her baby on a minute's notice.
I don't blame you one bit. She has no right to ask for so much when she doesn't try to improve her own life.
I don't think your generation is responsible for my generation being full of a bunch of disrespectful, selfish, ingrates and I am gulity of this too but the difference is I acknowledge it and hate myself for it.
